Voici un bon article de Swingcat, auteur de Séduction réelle. 

Hé types,

Je veux partager avec toi une méthode puissante
pour produire de l'ATTRACTION ; femmes d'une méthode
naturellement utilisation sur les hommes. Mais avant que je je suis
aller partager un conte personnel qui prend a
regard sinistre au moi masculin collectif
tentative pathétique de maintenir à flot en surface quand il
venez à attirer des femmes. Il y a seulement d'a
peu de gens avec qui j'ai partagé cette histoire
jusqu'ici, et moi sentez-vous presque timide en le partageant
avec toi. Il est si important, cependant, qu'I
share this story with you that I am willing to
take one for the team and swallow my pride a
bit.

When I was fifteen I went to high school with
a guy who claimed to be dating a teen model.
Not being the coolest cat in the litter box,
he went out of his way to prove to everyone
that he was “actually dating her”: he cut out
pictures in magazines of her, and even made up
stories about the two of them making monkey
love. Everyone mercilessly teased him, seeing
through his transparent lies. In a sad attempt
at regaining the smattering of respect people
had for him, he promised everyone that she
would attend his birthday party. I ended up
going to his party just to prove to myself
that this girl was a figment of his
imagination. Long story short, she was real.
She was also drop dead gorgeous: stunning tall
blonde, complete with angelic face, an ice
cold personality, and cigarette in hand (I was
in love!). Birthday boy, however, was not
“actually” dating her. In fact, she wanted
nothing to do with him.

Fast forwarding a bit, we ended up “getting it
on.” That was the good news. There was,
however, a catch: She had a boyfriend. She let
me know, fretting a wound in my heart, that
although she enjoyed fooling around with me,
she would never break up with her boyfriend for
me. Then she poured verbal rubbing alcohol on
my open wound by telling me that I did not fit
the quota of her “ideal man”: I wasn’t, for
example, tall or handsome or the offspring of
rock star parents…or whatever. Next she made
a cruel try at alleviating the sting by telling
me that it wasn’t my fault, but hers - this, of
course, only made me feel worse.

Did I run as fast as I could from this little
ice princess?

No - instead I had an “I’m going to try to
live up to her ridiculously high standards”
mentality. Similar to many other men in our
culture, I viewed attracting beautiful women
as a series of hoops and barriers I had to get
through. I thought: “I am going to do whatever
it takes to become the man of her dreams.”

Did I end up winning her heart?

Not at all. And the feeling it left me with
was akin to one’s nether regions being
stretched like a foot of flesh colored taffy.
Unless your sexual preference rhymes with the
month of May, this is a situation you want to
avoid at all costs.

Generating ATTRACTION in a woman is not about
living up to her standards. ATTRACTION is not
what a woman prefers in a man. Women prefer,
for example, men who are tall, dark, handsome,
rich, and famous…with really big penises. If
ATTRACTION was about what women prefer, only
the Brad Pitts, the Dave Navarros, and the
Ron Jeremys of the world would be getting
laid. This, thank God, is not what ATTRACTION
is.

ATTRACTION is not about how a woman judges you.
Letting a woman judge you will make you want
and need her validation. Put in other words,
you will become even more attracted to her.
This, however, will make you less attractive
to her than dingle berries hanging from a
baboon’s behind.

ATTRACTION is about emotionally compelling
a woman to chase you. It’s about creating
inside her the emotions of wanting and reaching
for more of you. Those of you who own my book,
Real World Seduction know how to do this.

Now that I know what ATTRACTION is, I realize
this woman had succeeded in making me attracted
to her. I have extracted the powerful mechanism
she used on me and now apply it to ATTRACTING
women - but in a way that is neither mean nor
manipulative.

So this begs the question: What is this
powerful mechanism for ATTRACTING women?

I call it “Challenging & Qualifying.” This is
the art of CHALLENGING women so they QUALIFY
themselves to you. When a woman qualifies
herself to you, she is trying to get validation
from you. Put in other words, anything you do
that forces a woman to qualify herself to you,
generates the emotion of ATTRACTION: her
wanting and reaching for more of you.

One of the best ways to get good at this is to
develop really high standards: know exactly what
you want in a woman. When talking to them,
convey that you are unwilling to compromise
these standards even one iota.

A few years ago, for example, I tried out a
little social experiment. I decided that I was
only going to be interested in women who were
sexually adventurous and spontaneous. If they
weren’t sexually adventurous, no exceptions, I
would walk away - even if they were super cute.

The weird thing, however, was that instead of
sleeping with less women, I was sleeping with
more - a lot more.

Within the first few minutes of meeting women I
would ask them if they were adventurous and
spontaneous. If they ended up being adventurous
and spontaneous, I would grab their hands and
say: “If you were in kissing school, how would
your kissing teacher grade your kissing
skills?” To which they usually hastened back: “I
would get an A+.” I would proceed by putting my
hands on their sacrum, pulling them close to me
and saying, “Let’s find out.” And most of the
time they would kiss me.

Women responded very powerfully to this.
Although it wasn’t overt, the subtext was that I
was QUALIFYING them for sex. Many women find
this to be sexually titillating.

I think part of this is that in our culture
men typically are the ones who sexually QUALIFY
themselves to women: some men, for example,
brag to women about the size of their schlong,
or how good they are in bed…or whatever they
feel will QUALIFY them as meeting women’s
sexual standards.

Instead I was sexually QUALIFYING women. Many
women after the fact have told me that they
thought: “If this guy has the nerve to ask
me if I live up to his sexual expectations, he
must be good in bed.”

Challenging women in this way, furthermore,
sparks a “tension loop” inside them. When you
challenge a woman it creates unresolved
emotional tension inside her body. She has to
QUALIFY herself to you in order to release and
bring closure to this tension.

A big part of making this work is having a
strong intent. Having a strong intent is having
the desire and will to do whatever it takes to
achieve your intended outcome, coupled with
the BELIEF that you can achieve this outcome.
So, for example, when challenging a woman
to meet my standards of sexual adventurism,
spontaneity and being a good kisser, I have
both:

1) The will and the desire to make her qualify
to me that she is sexually adventurous,
spontaneous, and a good kisser.

2) The belief that she will qualify to me that
she is sexually adventurous, spontaneous,
and a good kisser.

Developing this belief is the real key to success
with CHALLENGING women. In my next newsletter I
am going to talk about how to develop this belief.

I have really only given you the abridged version
of CHALLENGING women. My book gets deeply into
the intricacies of Challenging & Qualifying. If
you are ready to gain mastery over the inner
workings of generating ATTRACTION in women using
methods, such as Challenging & Qualifying, visit
Real World Seduction today.

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