Muster-Unterbrechungen

Wenn wir ein Verhalten finden, das arbeitet, neigen wir zu erhalten „uns verriegelten“ in es; wir wiederholen es, wann immer diese Situation oben kommt. Dieses wird eine Strategie oder ein Muster genannt. Leute an den Sozialsituationen zu vermeiden ist ein Muster und also zeigt nicht Ihre Gefühle und also bittet nicht um Daten oder tut es schlecht, und also fühlt traurig für selbst danach. Erinnern Sie sich, wenn Ihr nervöses System in Richtung zum Shyness übersetzt wird, Ihr unterbewußtes betrachtet diese Sachen gut, das ist, warum ich besagt dieses Verhalten „arbeite“. But what you can do is, whenever you find yourself in an unproductive pattern, you do what’s called a Pattern Interrupt. A Pattern Interrupt is anything suddenand unexpected that totally defies the pattern and therefore breaks its hold on you. It can be physical, like suddenly screaming at the top of your lungs or dancing wildly about the room. These are great if you’re in the privacy of your own home or you don’t mind making a fool of yourself. If you need something more subtle, you can do the interrupt in your head, such as experiencing a series of bizarre and totally inappropriate images or sounds.

Here’s one way I used this successfully. I was trying to ask someone out and was doing a lot of “Ummm…. Uhhhh….” and just generally feeling idiotic and screwing it up. All of a sudden I just said “FUCK!”, with feeling (She was the type that doesn’t mind swearing). Instantly my internal voice went from “Argh, what do I say, what do I do, what if she turns me down…” etc. to “Just quit your damn stalling and DO IT, dumb-ass!!” and I asked her out. I didn’t get the date, BTW, but I think that was because we came from VERY different worlds, and she just didn’t have a good impression of me. Actually, I was quite proud of myself for getting past the fear and taking the risk. Here’s another example. Supposing you really got a rise out of “Dead Poet’s Society”. A combination anchor/interrupt would be to declare “CARPE DIEM!!!” or “SIEZE THE DAY!!!” with gusto.

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