** The pleasure principle ***

I used to believe that interacting with a woman I wanted to get
to know was an interview. I had to show her what a good catch I
was. I had to prove my value, my loyalty, my intelligence.
Women want long term relationships, right? So I had to show them
how great I would be in the future. Problem was, doing that was
very boring in the present.

The pay off to a person interacting with you should be immediate.
Interacting with you should not feel like taking medicine. It
should feel like smoking crack cocaine. Your interactions should
get people immediately high. This is true even if you are
interested in developing a long term relationship. Women judge a
man’s potential not on objective qualifications, such as earnings
or morale character. Humans are way too immediate
gratification-addicted for that. Women judge your potential
based on how you feel to them in the moment. They figure fun
now, fun later. In the moment they tend to wander off with, as
my grandmother would call him,the charming rascal.

Don’t prove what a great guy you are. Show her by having a good
time in the moment. If she feels good around you in the moment
she will want to continue to be around you in the future. More
on that tomorrow.