Below is a David DeAngelo article on women testing you.
This shit is so true. This article only gives some insight
into how and why they test you, but it is a good starting
point in learning how to avoid these tests and even turn them
around on the girls.

Passing Women’s Shit Tests by David DeAngelo 

“WHY WOMEN TEST MEN, AND WHAT TO DO WHEN IT
HAPPENS TO YOU…”

Women test men.

That’s the reality of the situation.

Women test men RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING, and
they keep on testing FOREVER.

If you don’t know how to deal with the tests
that women throw at you, you have VERY LITTLE
chance of improving your success in the dating
world.

HOW DO WOMEN TEST MEN?

For most guys, the concept of a woman “testing”
them seems a little strange.

Why would a woman WANT to test a man?

What could she possibly gain from it?

The answer: A LOT.

By testing a man, a woman can learn THE MOST
IMPORTANT thing about him…

And I’ll share what that is a little bit later
on in this newsletter.

TEST: A DEFINITION

So I was thinking about this particular topic
today, and I realized that I’ve never looked up
the definition of the word “test”.

When I did, here’s what I found:

1. A procedure for critical evaluation; a means of
determining the presence, quality, or truth of
something; a trial: a test of one’s eyesight;
subjecting a hypothesis to a test; a test of an
athlete’s endurance.

2. A series of questions, problems, or physical
responses designed to determine knowledge,
intelligence, or ability.

3. A basis for evaluation or judgment: “A test of
democratic government is how Congress and the
president work together” (Haynes Johnson).

OK, so take a moment and read those again.

The purpose of a test is to figure something
out. It’s a way of getting “true” information
about something.

So back to my earlier question… Why do women
test men in the first place?

BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO.

If you walk up to a man and say “Hey, how much
money do you make?” he can LIE.

If you ask him if he is good in bed, he can
LIE.

If you ask him if he’s strong enough to deal
with the challenges of life, support a family, and
reach his goals, he can LIE.

Are you with me here?

In other words, if you get to the end of one of
your college courses, the teacher COULD just ask
you if you have a comprehensive understanding of
the material you learned during the course.

But you could LIE.

So the teacher gives you a TEST to see if you
REALLY know what’s going on.

Well, in the same way that teachers test
students, women test MEN.

And that means YOU, Sparky.

But there’s one LITTLE TEENSY WEENSY difference
between the kinds of tests that women give you and
the kinds of tests that teachers give you…

Women don’t tell you first… that they’re
going to test you!

And they don’t teach you what you need to know
BEFORE they test you.

They just do it.

Right when they meet you.

Within the first few seconds, actually.

Why?

Because women don’t have the TIME to deal with
all the guys who are interested in them.

And they’re not interested in getting together
with a man who doesn’t “get it” in the first
place.

Beautiful women aren’t looking for a guy to
TRAIN.

And the tests don’t stop… by the way.

If you meet an attractive, interesting,
emotionally healthy woman, you can expect to be
tested until either:

1) The relationship ends.

2) You or she DIES.

WHAT WOMEN ARE TESTING FOR

Now, women will test men for ALL KINDS of
things.

Some women will test to see if you have money.

Some will test to see if you’ll SPEND your
money on them.

Some will test to see if you’re intelligent.

And some will test to see if you’re loyal.

But BY FAR, in my experience, more women will
test you initially to see if you’re a WUSSY!

That’s right…

The VERY FIRST thing a woman wants to “know”
about you is whether or not you’re a submissive,
ass-kissing boy who has no balls.

And if you ARE, then you might as well throw in
the towel.

If you are a Wussy, and you fail the “Wussy
Tests” that she throws at you, then you stand very
little chance succeeding with the woman who is
testing you.

Of course, MOST men fail with MOST women…
MOST of the time.

As a side note:

There is one exception to this rule.

If you act like a Wussy, but you’re willing to
pursue a woman for a few YEARS, and deal with the
idea that you have about a 1 in 100 chance, then
you MIGHT be able to convince her to marry you.

But like I said, the chances are VERY slim, and
the effort required just isn’t worth it.

There is a FAR better way…

THESE TESTS ARE VERY SUBTLE

Probably the most interesting thing about tests
from women is that they’re not OBVIOUS.

At least not to most men.

In fact, I’d say that 99% of all the tests that
women use on men FLY BELOW RADAR.

They’re right out in the open, obvious to other
women (and a few men), but for the most part, they
go COMPLETELY UNDETECTED.

For instance, let’s say that you’re standing at
a bar talking to some friends, and you make eye
contact with the cute girl standing six feet away
from you.

What do most guys do?

They look away.

And they do it FAST.

Of course, most guys will LOOK AGAIN within a
few seconds.

But it’s already too late.

TEST FAILED.

Here’s another…

Let’s say you’re at a bar talking to a girl,
and she says “Hey, buy me a drink”.

You say “Great, what do you want?”.

Guess what?

She just told you what to do, and you went for
it without a second thought.

Or maybe you’ve started a conversation with a
group of girls at a coffee shop.

One of them says that she doesn’t like your
shoes.

You say “Oh, well I wasn’t planning on seeing
anyone important today… I just put on whatever I
could find”.

In other words, you MAKE AN EXCUSE for
yourself.

As you can probably guess, that’s a BAD IDEA.

In that moment, you have just failed the test
with flying colors.

THIS HAS HAPPENED TO YOU

If you think back in your life about all of the
situations with women that went BAD, you’ll
probably find that you were TESTED, and you
FAILED.

In one way or another, you probably missed some
VITAL clue that you were being tested, and you
wound up failing.

RESULT: She hit the road.

It’s happened to all of us.

If I had a dollar for every time…

lol…

I’ve been through this one so many times in my
life that it HURTS.

I should probably get the jackass award for
most tests failed with women.

And before I give you some tips on handling
tests from women, I want to say AGAIN: If you find
yourself failing tests from women on a CONSISTENT
basis, then you should get yourself some “in-
depth” reprogramming on a DEEP level.

HOW TO DEAL WITH TESTS

If you’re going to successfully deal with tests
from women, you first need to “get it”.

To say it differently, you need to learn how to
RECOGNIZE tests quickly… and know when they’re
happening.

What’s the best way to know when you’re being
tested?

Well, one way that I KNOW I’m being tested is
my GUT.

Your gut doesn’t lie.

In fact, if us guys would just learn to use
this amazing “test detector” called our GUTS, then
we’d live happier lives.

Here’s how it works…

Next time you’re interacting with a woman and
she does or says something that makes your gut
tense up, you’re probably being tested.

Now, I can’t go into all the aspects of how to
deal with tests from women… because that would
take me several hours.

But I will say that the most IMPORTANT thing to
do is EXPECT tests… and then pay close attention
to how you’re responding to them.

Most of the things we do with women are NOT
CONSCIOUS. When a woman looks at you, and you look
away, it wasn’t a “conscious decision”.

It just HAPPENS.

All of a sudden, you’re feeling butterflies and
glancing away. It happens in an instant.

So you first need to recognize when it’s
happening to you.

When a woman tells you what to do, she’s
testing you.

When a woman tries to change plans or cancel at
the last minute, she’s testing you.

When a woman asks you to buy her something,
she’s testing you.

When a woman nags, whines, or complains, she’s
testing you.

Learn to SPOT IT when it’s happening.

Next, notice how you respond.

You’ve failed a million tests with women
already, so don’t worry about ten more.

Just notice how you respond.

Most men respond by trying to win the woman’s
approval.

If she tries to cancel plans at the last
minute, you’ll say “Oh, no problem”.

If she complains about something, you’ll say
“I’m sorry, let me fix it”.

You know what I’m saying.

Again, just notice what’s going on when you
respond.

Finally, learn how to PAUSE before you respond,
and then UNDERSTAND how you need to respond to
each test.

Most tests will be tests to see if you’ll allow
her to CONTROL YOU.

If you DO allow a woman to CONTROL you, you
will lose.

And you can take that one to the bank.

You will lose in one way or another, almost
guaranteed.

Women don’t want men that they can control.

So make sure you pass those tests first.

The more you pay close attention, the more
you’ll see the subtle tests that women are using
with you.

And the more of these tests you pass, the more
success you’ll have.

YOU MUST GO BEYOND THE TEST

To learn more I highly recommend reading David’s ebook

Click here to read Double Your Dating now.

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