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    Women Want Unpredictable Men


    Me and Mike Stoute were just talking about something that is similiar to this Derek V article recently. It doesn’t matter if you think what you’re about to say might be offensive- sometimes you have to take the chance. – Bobby

    Unpredictable Men Get the Girls by Derek Vitalio


    We`ve mentioned this a lot, but now the hammer drops. You CAN`T BE BORING! There is no greater sin when you`re trying to attract beautiful women.

    In fact, this is the number one cause of nice guy frienditis. It`s not that women don`t like nice guys  oftentimes those let`s-just-be-friends have some sincerity in them  it`s that nice guys aren`t exciting. They`re predictable.

    And let`s face it almost everyone will pick exciting over pleasant every time. Guys too.

    How many sites are set up devoted to the hotness of Laura Croft? How many are set up exalting the attributes of Jane Austen heroines? Have you ever even had the patience to finish a Jane Austen novel?

    I rest my case.


    Nice guys often wind up in this atrocious position where they do everything right and his object of affection WANTS to like him but there just is no spark. She wishes like hell she could dig such a sweet man who would treat her as well as anyone but she just can`t. Her head is all into you, but her heart is somewhere else.


    Her heart is seeking adventure. Now, this doesn`t mean that you have to go cliff diving or bungee jumping on a first date (at least not with all women), but it DOES mean you can`t be predictable. You can`t bland and inoffensive because that path is so obvious she`ll know what you`ll say and do five minutes before you do it.

    How long can you watch a painfully formulaic movie before getting annoyed  especially if there aren`t any explosions?




    Now, jerks aren`t pleasant people. This isn`t a positive  in fact, it`s the reason they rarely find themselves in long-term or stable relationships, you can only put up with that shit for so long  but what jerks ARE is unpredictable. There are only a few right things you can do in any situation; the wrong things you can do are basically infinite.

    That makes time spent with jerks interesting and exciting  you never know what will happen next. Because the situations usually turn ugly, you don`t stick with a guy like that for too long  but women end up with a major dilemma, because the excitement is like an addictive drug. When it comes to body chemistry, this is LITERALLY true.

    Women who find themselves EXTREMELY addicted to this drug are the ones who might wind up in an abusive relationship. They know they shouldn`t be there  but they need that chemical fix.


    I don`t know about you, but my aim in life has never been to be an abusive asshole. Even as a young kid I recognized that pricks got more women than they should, and that I would probably increase my success by following that pattern  but I couldn`t bring myself to do it. Deep down, most of us ARE nice guys.


    What to do?


    How about isolate the attraction jerks provoke, without all the other bullshit?

    This is where you relaxed playfulness comes in  if you are playing in a fun way, you aren`t being predictable. You aren`t saying what everyone expects  saying what ISN`T expected is one of the major keys to humor.


    By extension, if you`ve got a girl laughing, chances are she didn`t expect what just happened. You give her that excitement while SIMULTANEOUSLY creating a pleasant atmosphere. That`s a rare combo. A double-combo knockout punch, if you will. (Note: don`t punch her  unless you`ve got a safe word set up beforehand. Note for idiots: don`t take S/M jokes literally.)


    That said, the lady is going to test your character. Lots of times, this will come in the form of demands and requests  both direct and indirect. You want to keep the pleasantness, but you don`t want to give up any machismo or become predictable by instantly caving into her wishes. What to do?


    DELAY. This is another key word. It applies to all sorts of aspects of dating, but for now we`re going to focus on spontaneity. Write it down somewhere in your journal.

    Then write it down on 10 more pages, at the top, in bold letters. Go ahead and get creative. DELAY.


    What do I mean by delay? Let`s say you`re going to dinner, and your lady mentions how much she loves sushi. Don`t say anything, and DON`T go there that night.

    But go three weeks later. It shows thoughtfulness and that you were listening without any of the wimpy characteristics usually associated with such displays. Plus, she knows not to expect where the night will lead, and not to try and guide it.

    She talks about how she loves the beach. Wonderful take her there when she least expects it, like a Friday night after her work ends and spend a moonlit evening enjoying the waves before swimming the next day.

    You get the idea. Pay attention to what she likes, but file it away. Don`t immediately try and fulfill her desires  it gets to be like the Twilight Zone about the gambler who never loses and realizes he`s in hell. But go ahead and fulfill them on YOUR schedule, at unexpected moments.

    This is one of the easiest lessons to learn, but also one of the easiest to let slip when crunch time comes. A little whining and most men lose their heads and do whatever is asked of them.

    Better is to make it clear that you don`t have time for whining  nicely but firmly  and over time let the lady learn she will get what she wants  when YOU want to give it to her.

    By the way, all of this, it counts about a thousand fold when it comes to sex. Few things are sexier than a man who doesn`t lose it at the sight of an exposed breast. If you can control yourself and DELAY satisfaction until you`re ready to give it over, the ANTICIPATION becomes more powerful than ACT ALONE usually is  making the act all the more powerful when it comes.

    Yes, I`m still talking about sex. But I`m talking about all the rest of it too. DELAY. Really. Trust me. DELAY.

    If you want to experience where getting your seduction skills up to par can take you, check out my courses Seduction Science and Blissnosis.

    They are literally jam packed with everything you need, in step by step detail, for attracting the most beautiful women you find.

    Check them out.

    Until next time,

    Your Friend,
    Derek Vitalio

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    About MikeStoute

    Michael Stoute here, and at your service. I am a writer/editor/lover and a fighter. My words are weapons of wisdom so watch out, you may learn something...or better yet, maybe you can teach me something! Have a question? Please try to leave it in the comments, it will get a faster response than an email. Otherwise, Email Me

    Simple Trick Tells You if a Girl Wants You to Kiss Her

    Do girls leave you confused as to whether or not they like you?

    Let's face it.  Girl's don't make it easy for you.  She will often send mixed signals leaving you unable to tell if she is being friendly or flirty.  If you read her signals wrong you risk rejection and embarrassment. Or worse, you blow it with a girl who wanted to kiss you.

    Here is a simple and innocent move that will instantly tell you if you're in the friend zone, or if she's waiting for you to kiss her.

    One Comment

    1. Joel Collet

      January 27, 2012 at 12:03 am

      You are entitled to your views, but let me tell you mine. If you don’t give a woman what she wants right away, she is probably going to do the same thing. She might not give you sex right when you want it. Is that what YOU would want? It’s certainly not what I would want. Maybe I sound like some sort of perverted sex maniac, I know relationships aren’t just about sex, but sex is an important part of a relationship. It is very healthy for the relationship, if it is done right, and it can really enhance the emotional connection between you and your partner. My point is: You get back what you put out in life. If you can give her a bit of what she wants when she wants it, she’ll be more willing to do the same with you. Being a nice guy will take you alot further ahead in life than being a jerk. Jerks are not that confident. They’re insecure, which is why they need to be jerks. I would argue that nice guys are more confident, and any woman who says that she wants a confident man, that’s one more reason why she should go for a nice guy. As you said, relationships with jerks don’t last, so my question is: why bother? You think the adventure makes up for it? Maybe if you’re a really adventurous type of person, but unpredictability is not my thing. I like to know where I’m going, which is maybe a form of insecurity, but everybody’s guilty of having that weakness to a certain degree. At any rate, I believe that nice guys are the winners and jerks are the losers. Our society still has alot to learn. Anyways, no disrespect to you, thanks for sharing your message, I was just sharing mine.

      All the best,

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