Someone asked me about screening in an email a week ago. Here is Sebastian, of Master the Vibe take on it. I always like what he has to say. - Bobby

Screening Women by Sebastian Drake

There is no doubt that having standards and holding women to them

is good for both value and compliance. It shows you have value in

that you can afford to have standards and think well of yourself,

that you deserve a quality woman. It’s good for compliance when you

hold her to your standards and she tries to meet them.

 

On top of all that, after she meets one of your standards, you can

reward her for it and show her that that qualifies her to be with

you - which increases attainability.

 

Screening is, in short, a good thing. But a lot of times, guys have

a hard time making screening questions Situationally Relevant. They

aren’t able to create the context necessary to screen.

 

What you can do in place of screening questions is use

statement-based screening. It’s screening in a way that doesn’t ask

her if she meets your standards, but instead puts your standards

out there and offers her the opportunity to show she meets them.

This begins to work once you’ve base compliance and she’s started

to initially get attracted to you.

 

What you do, quite simply, is put out a statement as to what you

like or don’t like. If the girl likes you, she’ll want to show she

meets that standard.

 

Example:

 

Screening question: “Can you cook?”

Screening statement: “I like girls that can cook.”

 

This also has great application for screening in response to a

story she had, where a question might be very verbose.

 

For instance, a great thing to screen women on is having female

friends in addition to male friends. Trust me on this one, you

don’t want a girlfriend that can’t get along with other girls.

 

So if the girl is talking about how she doesn’t like most girls and

doesn’t get along with them, you can drop a screening statement: “I

hear you, girls can be tough. I think it’s really important to have

friends that are guys and girls though.” -> This is almost

guaranteed to get her backpedalling and trying to impress upon and

to you that she has female friends too.

 

The great thing about screening statements is that they’re actually

more compliance than passing a screening question. While there’s a

social obligation to answer a reasonable question you’re asked, it

feels to her like she’s just volunteering that she’s up to your

standards when you make a statement. And on the flipside, you’re

putting less effort in - so she’s giving you more effort after

you’ve put in less. A good formula.

 

Now, realize one last cool piece of the puzzle. Girls - especially

very beautiful girls with great social skills - often use

screening-based statements on men. They’ll mention in passing that

they value something or other, and most men will jump to say

they’re that.

 

Instead, a good answer is to just smile and agree with her, perhaps

saying the word, “Cool.”

 

Examples:

 

Girl: “I really think what car a guy drives says a lot about him.”

You: “Cool.”

 

Girl: “I expect my boyfriends to take me out to really nice places.”

You: “Cool.”

 

It dismisses the screen from her without being combative. You

smile, and say something like, “Cool.” Very high value stuff.

 

Keep playin’,

 

Sebastian

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