I remember when I first learned the word Neg, from Mystery many years ago. I thought the concept was brilliant. It was actually something one of my friends always did and it always worked for, yet none of us were smart enough to catch on and use them our selves.

Do they work? Of course. Will they lead to your desired outcome? I can’t promise that. I personally have had a lot of negs back fire.

Some recent negs I’ve used for success!

I was talking to a girl and I pulled out these beer goggles, put them on, looked at her and said…”okay, we can continue talking”

Another time a girl asked me to guess her nationality. I said, “Jewish” I didn’t mean it as a neg but she took it that way… the whole rest of the night she kept coming up to me asking why I thought she was Jewish. Turns out she was Portuguese. I busted out some “Eu falo um poco Portuguese” and along we went.

Another neg I used without even realizing it was when a few friends were telling this girl we know that she looks like Jennifer Aniston. This girl had kind of frizzy hair. I say “She’s got the nose, but not the hair” All the sudden the girl that everyone was pawning over is trying to win me over.

Anyway, enough with my negs…. Here is an article that Christian from Master the Vibe asked me to post. Its his opinion on negging women. He really has an interesting perspective that I think you’ll enjoy!

Should You Use Negs During Pick-ups? by Sebastian Drake of Master the Vibe

With the growing popularity of negs and the so-called “negging“, many men think that the using a small insult to bring a woman down is an effective strategy. There are other ways however. See this:

A huge part of the negging dogma is that men strive to have a higher value than a woman they’re meeting. A man thinks, “I’ve got a 7 out of 10 social status, but she’s an an 8.5! I’ve got to neg her down to my level!”

So what are your options?

1. Long term: Become legitimately higher value. This should be one of your goals. Always improve your life. I’ll work on some strategies for doing this with you too, but let’s get some short term solutions as well.

2. Lowering her value to increase yours: A well-timed neg or dismissal might lower her value or status, so she sees herself as a 6.5 and is desperate for the attention of your studly 7.2 self.

These are the most commonly offered solutions to the issue. Either improve in the long term, or neg her down in the short term. But lots of men, maybe yourself included, want short term results and don’t like the underlying cracks in a relationship that’s built on temporarily decreasing her perceived value.
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