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Remember, you are being watched at all times. This means even when you are not actively engaged in a conversation you need to present you best image. Below are some tricks you need to convey:

* Never seem to be in a hurry - hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time.

* Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually.

* Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease - so when you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Cloak your focus on the elements (which will more than likely seem intense when you first start practicing the art) by being confident on the outside and relaxed on the inside. Never let them see you sweat.

* Practice being subtle (”subtle,” as used here, means ‘So slight as to be difficult to detect or analyze; elusive.’).

A great article to read suggested by one of our readers, Chase, is a post called “The Gunslinger Walk” This post will help you command respect while walking the halls of high school. It really is a must read in terms of creating your new image.

Once you have decided to change your image you will need a good starting point for understanding the essence of men’s style. A great post to read is 25 Ways for Men to Improve Style this post gives 25 tips that you can immediately implement. Remember, ultimately you will be modeling your style and dress after a celebrity, but this is a great introduction to what it takes to transform your image

Once you have selected the image that you are going for you have to be congruent with that image. If you have decided to go for the hip hop look then you can’t show up wearing punk clothes one day. This will ruin any credibility you have achieved as an innovator of that particular style.

Homework

1. Read the entire lesson again from part 1 including the posts that I provided links to.
2. Search through the internet and find several fashion and style related sites and add them to your favorites. These include any sites that will keep you up to date in fashion and music trends.
3. Decide which celebrity (even minor celebrity like Bobby from Shot at Love) you want to mirror their style. Next go through the websites, magazines, youtube, and DVDs and collect as much info on their sense of style as possible.
4. Get a new haircut. Haircut is key. No matter what it takes get your hair to look as close as possible to the guy your trying to emulate.
5. Practice The Gunslinger Walk. If possible video tape your self doing it so you can view it from an objective point of view. Go through these 8 Keys to Mastering Your Look.
6. Take care of all of inexpensive ways to make your self more attractive right away. These things include: tanning, hygiene, haircuts, throwing out outdated clothing, tweezing eyebrows, shaving off that ridiculous mustache, a new pair of trendy sneakers, taking care of an acme problem, adding cheap accessories to your wardrobe.
7. Gradually start adding new outfits to your wardrobe. Pick these outfits based on the websites and magazines you’ve been researching. If at all possible bring a trendy female with you who can advise you on what looks good.
8. Put into all of the ideas outlined in the lesson on confidence, how to carry yourself, how to walk, and how to talk. Also read through the articles on conversation skills and begin to put them into use.

Check back in a couple days for Lesson 3 of How to be Popular in High School.

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