Una serie de TSB:
Cómo ser popular en High School secundaria
- Cómo ser popular en High School secundaria
- Popular en la High School secundaria (L2)
- Cambiar su imagen en la parte II de la High School secundaria (L2)
- Cómo ser el cabrito popular en la High School secundaria (L3)
- Infiltrating the Popular Circle in High School (L4)
- The Cool Kid
- High School Friends
- Don’t Brown Bag It
- How to be Popular in High School (L8)
- How to be Popular in High School Podcast
This is the 2nd lesson in my “How to be Popular in High School” program. I highly suggest reading the introduction, and starting this program from the beginning if you haven’t already done so. This is the second part of Lesson two. If you haven’t read the first part, go back and read Image is Everything.
Lesson 2- “Changing Your Image”
In the first part of this lesson I gave you an over view of the best possible way to change your image. Image is about the way you present your self to other people. We learned that that you need to be up to date with the trends when choosing what clothes to wear, what music to listen to, what haircut to sport, and what TV shows to watch. We also learned that image is also about the way you carry yourself. It is about projecting an inner confidence. In this next section I am going to show you specific steps you need to take to transform your self. I will be citing a lot of material from a great post called The 7 Elements of Charisma, which I suggest all of you read.
You need to always be conscious of how you appear to other people. You need to give off the impression that you are an important person and are considered an important person by others.
* Before speaking to a person, you ask yourself: How is this person going to interpret my next few words? What kind of effect are they going to have? What effect is it that I’m going for? Will I sound like I know what I’m talking about? Or will I sound like a fool? Will I sound confident? Or will I sound cocky? Will I sound sincere, or will I sound fake? Will I come across as a good conversationalist, someone who listens more than he speaks? Or will I seem as though I talk too much and therefore am not a good conversationalist?
The above advice is sound, but you don’t want to fall into the trap of constantly being inside your head worried about what you are going to say. What you say doesn’t have to be perfect.. you just want to think for a brief second if what you are saying conveys confidence and coolness, or if it makes you sound like a showboat, a coward, or hurts your image in any other way.
You need to be a good conversationalist. If you don’t have any clue what makes a good conversationalist read through some of the articles on this site about building conversation skills. These articles should provide a nice foundation for becoming a better conversationalist.
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December 26, 2007
as for the homework number 6, I have a goatee and chinstraps but I keep it short and neatly trimmed cuz I look ridiculous without it but I like this post…what style do all u have and who do u model it after?
December 26, 2007
the building conerstional skills link don’t work
December 26, 2007
im pretty clean shaven (not exactly by choice either ha ha).i recently decided im gonna go more for a Tom Brady sorta look. alot of my clothes come from Express, although i do have the typical High School brands of Hollister & American Eagle too.. but ive noticed that Express seems to make me look older, like a college guy, which i know is alot sexier to high school girls. but its funny because my choice of music is pretty much Rap/Hip Hop lol im a recovering “gangster”.
December 26, 2007
So many people toss image or first impressions out the door, labeling it vanity. Anyone who has made flash judgments in the past, know the power of image. Perception is reality. Great post.
December 26, 2007
I’ve sort of gone for the colin farrel look… I’m out of high school but still think its important to maintain a good image.
Bobby made a great point about thrift shops and salvations armys. I go there and buy like thirty shirts and spend like $40. I wind up not liking half of them, but I’ve got some solid stuff… even if i like 15/30 I’ve still got fifteen new shirts for $40..
If you go there with an idea or picutres of what you want.. it is easy to find good stuff.
December 27, 2007
Love it! These are great ‘lessons’
December 27, 2007
When I was in highschool there was this kid who would pull mad girls and would wear a different basketball jersey every single day. He just seemed to never repeat them and had his style all his own. It really made him stand out.
(i wouldn’t recommend anyone else trying it, but definitely have your own image)
December 27, 2007
lol my friend is one of those kinda guys Ha$h,
except instead of basketball jerseys, he does it with different color basketball shirts, shorts, and shoes. he matches them all every single day, and everyone knows him as “the matching guy”. now if only he had game, and was more confident in himself, he might be able to pull some chicks with that kinda image.
August 22, 2008
Just a note the building conversational skills page is broken.
http://www.tsbmag.com/tag/conversation+skills
September 17, 2008
Well in the struggles of being poupular there’s a thin line from speaking with confidence and being cocky, and the best way ” I think” to seperate the 2 is to notice the tone of your voice when speaking, remember its not really what you say but how you say it, you kind of wanna be a nicely spoking ass hole..