Comment je souhaite j'avais lu des articles comme il y a ces dix ans quand j'étais foutu vers le haut avec des poussins à gauche et à droite dans l'université. Dos alors je n'ai eu aucune femme de réunion de problème, mais j'ai eu une fermeture énorme de problème l'affaire avec elles. Il me rend malade à mon estomac quand je pense à l'âne chaud d'université que j'ai manqué dehors dessus parce que j'étais trop nerveux pour aller chercher le baiser.
I can remember nights sitting up till like four in the morning talking to some chick who was probably dying for me to kiss her already, but I kept waiting for that perfect moment. And I would talk myself right past it.
It was the one question I would constantly ask my friends, “How do you go from talking to the kiss?” Back then I never had anyone give me a great answer, but this article by Stephen Nash will answer the question for any you who might be struggling with the same problem.
I have huge respect for Stephen, and believe strongly in his knowledge, as he displayed in his “Most Memorable Pick-up Story.” Stephen teaches men how to score the girl of their dreams… This post on going in for the kiss is definately worth reading.
Going in for the Kiss by Stephen Nash
Here we go - the step-by-step guide to being super smooth when it’s time to smooch:
In my estimation, this is where most guys blow it. They know the girl is ready to be kissed, yet they freeze up and pass a bunch of good opportunities to make a move,waiting for that perfect one. Even worse, they’ll wait hoping the woman will make the first move.
If you’re the kind of guy who hesitates, I got news for you… There are no perfect windows of opportunity, just many good ones, and 99% of the time she will not be the first to initiate any form of intimacy. If she does, consider yourself lucky.
How do we handle this slightly awkward situation? Very simply. The key here is spotting these good, small windows of opportunity and then taking advantage of them. Still better is to just create these windows yourself. I have covered a lot more steps in my e-book “How To Get A Girlfriend” but for now I have just illustrated a basic technique.
Let’s cover this point-by-point:
1) The first thing to make sure of is that you’re both having a good time, getting along well and physical contact has been established. It could be anything from holding hands, to a playful push on the shoulder. At this point it is important that she has touched you in some way indicating interest on her part.
2) When you feel you have reached this point, start slowing down the energy of the interaction. Start subtly moving a bit closer to her, slowing down your speech, and take longer pauses between sentences. The thought here is SUBTLE.
3) Now here’s the secret, the one move that will assure you to be remembered by her as the smoothest guy ever… During each of those pauses in your conversation,stare at her lips. You can even start talking again, though slowly, still staring at her lips. Start slowly moving in closer. The words you’re saying at this point become irrelevant; the sexual tension in the air will be too thick.
4) Slowly move your eyes from her mouth to her eyes and back again. If she has not moved away, or shown any sign of unease, you can place a hand on her hip and bring her in closer.
5) Usually she will lean in the rest of the way and kiss you. After all, at this stage, your lips should only be an inch or two away from hers. Congratulations! In her mind, you are the world’s smoothest man.
Enjoy!
Your Friend,
Stephen Nash
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January 6, 2008
good article. whenever you think you could kiss her most likely you can thats your intuition telling to go in for it.
lol i like to play with em alot by going in for it just like the article cept right when we are about to connect lips i stop and say “what was i saying” and pull back it creates some heavy sexual tension and puts u in sooo much control(now not every situation is good for this, use your best judgement)
January 6, 2008
Teddy Bear -
I think the prob most guys who don’t kiss close have isn’t that they don’t listen to their intuition but rather that their intuition sucks. At least that was my problem in my younger days. For me it wasn’t about trusting my intuition so much as getting intuition. A lot of guys have such low self-esteem that it’s hard for them to grasp a woman wants to kss them unless she makes it overly obvious.
Anyway, great piece.
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January 7, 2008
Yeah, I was so nervous when I first kissed a girl at 21. That was 5 years ago, and if I really feel it for a girl, I still get anxious… but know what to do and feel comfortable in the anxiety. It’s awesome.
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January 7, 2008
At the start of college, I had this very same problem. I just didn’t understand WHEN to kiss a girl or I would always feel like I wasn’t in the right place, really it was just the fear of rejection. The real answer is basically just DO IT. If she is holding eye contact with you, and has already touched you or feels comfortable touching you, just fucking go for it.
NEVER ASK and NEVER TELL THEM that you are about to kiss them, it totally ruins the mood. Just go for it, dive in, it’s pretty scary I know.
You need to stop looking for the right opportunity, and just go at ANY opportunity, even if people are around. ALL you need is THREE Indicators of Interest… She holds eye contact for 5 seconds, she laughs at your jokes, she touches you, she touches pieces or articles or your clothing deliberatly, when conversation stops she starts it with “so…”. You really only need three, just DO IT.
…and trust me, once you get that first kiss, you can keep kissing, and kiss whenever you want. It’s so crucial!
-Hash
January 8, 2008
Good shit. I should have gone for the kiss while I was out last night.
It’s kinda hard to go for a kiss when you and your target are walking around the middle of a park after midnight. I wasn’t too sure what to do.
Anyone got advice for that type of situation?
-Seraf
January 8, 2008
Great post, very helpful since its one of my sticking-points.
Lool @ Teddy bear with the push-pull.
Btw, thanks for the advice Ha$h on the IOIs.
And i swear theres sump’ called “Triangular-gazing”???
January 8, 2008
hey seraf what I woulda did is say ‘hold on stop for a second, you gotta something in your hair’ and then act like u getting a piece of fuzz out of her hair(from the side by her cheek) and as you’re doing use the other hand to slightly hold her chin like you’re trying to keep her steady so you can grab it. after acting like u got it give her the triangle gaze( its where u look into her right eye then move to the left one then to her lips and repeat process one more time) then go in for the kiss kinda slowly, but not to slow….I can probally think of a couple more but I’m at work so I can’t be on my phone too much
January 9, 2008
Nah seraf, it’s not hard man, that’s like Ideal situation, a hard situation for kissing a girl would be if you were in separate states and talking to her over a camera. You just gotta go for it, no matter where, anywhere, you don’t need techniques or tricks, just the confidence to know that you can and will kiss her anytime you feel like it! This time, seal the deal, or she’ll start thinking “what the fuck?”
January 9, 2008
Thanks Teddy Bear for the Triangular gaze definition.
Pzz
July 16, 2008
so i just got done reading the whole kissing thing. and i must say there is ONE very impotent thing that got left out. and this so coming from a girl that has had this done to her. yeah he was very smooth and because of the first kiss we dated for over a year, but he didn’t have nice smelling breath for the “closer” and it kinda took a bit of the “romance” out of it, at least for me it did. so guys please make sure for not only the girl but yourself as well you have fresh breath. that will help you out a lot. and it will make sure that you don’t take any “romance” out of the kiss, or the rest of the night. but have fun.