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Como ser popular na High School
- Como ser popular na High School
- Popular na High School (L2)
- Mudando sua imagem na parte II da High School (L2)
- Como ser o miúdo popular na High School (L3)
- Infiltrating the Popular Circle in High School (L4)
- The Cool Kid
- High School Friends
- Don’t Brown Bag It
- How to be Popular in High School (L8)
- How to be Popular in High School Podcast
This is the 3rd lesson in my “How to be Popular in High School” program. I highly suggest reading the introduction, and starting this program from the beginning if you haven’t already done so.
Lesson 3 -”Know Your Role“
There is a great quote in the book 48 Laws of Power that says “Never outshine the current establishment…in your rise to the top never let them feel insecure of you. Always make them feel superior.” Remember this quote. Everything you learn in the upcoming lessons is dependent on it. It is worth repeating: “Never outshine the current establishment…in your rise to the top never let them feel insecure of you. Always make them feel superior.”
Every kid in high school is aware of the social hierarchy and where they fit it into it. Their popularity depends on their being people less popular then them. If everyone was equal, they wouldn’t be special. And they wouldn’t like that.
That being said, no one is anxious to let someone else into the clique. In fact, most of the kids will outwardly try to crush your dreams of being popular. This is why you have to go in under the radar. You have to respect their place in the social hierarchy and more importantly let them know you respect their place. Of course you never verbally say this. You do it in your actions.
Never try to steal their spotlight. For instance, in the previous lesson we talked about image, applying this principle means that you will never wear an outfit or style that bites off one of them. This will arouse envy and suspicion from them and they will turn into your enemy. If one of them invites you to a party, never be more important then they are… never hog more attention then them. In fact, do the opposite and do everything in your power to make them feel even more popular. Do not kiss ass. No one likes flattery. Instead be their wingman. Make it your goal to help them become more popular… help them get a girl… Just generally be supportive of them.
The minute they sense that you may overtake their space in the hierarchy they will turn against you. Trust me.
All of this will make more sense as the lessons progress and I give more concrete examples of what to do. But for now, it is important that you realize this. I will repeat the quote one more time for emphasis: “Never outshine the current establishment…in your rise to the top never let them feel insecure of you. Always make them feel superior.“
Homework
- Find someone slightly above you in the hierarchy and befriend them. You can befriend them by talking to them about something that you know they are interested in. If they are a football fan, ask them their opinion on the playoffs. Seem generally interested in their opinion. Make them feel like an expert. If they are into music introduce them to a new band… just start a conversation and be a fan of theirs. Be subtle about it. Don’t flatter them! But show them that you value their opinion and thoughts. This will compel them to like you…even just a little bit. It’s a start!
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January 7, 2008
You know, a lot of this advice can be tweaked and applied toward careers. Hell, it can even be applied toward blogging. Which is kind of scary cuz it just reaffirms my growing belief that we never really outgrow high school, we just keep repackaging it.
T’s last blog post..Cooking Shows Are Chick Porn
January 7, 2008
I’ve said this from the beginning… high school is the supreme example of a social hiearchy but the rules apply everywhere.
never thought about blogging… but you’re right it can be
January 7, 2008
im liking it Bobby.
its funny, cuz i just wrote a kinda long post about how to become a Tribal Leader at HS parties for Kevin, and alot of the stuff i was mentioning is what you talk about in these articles.
i think i can almost say im becoming popular in high school now.wow. maybe soon i’ll be having to help you write these articles, lol jk.
January 7, 2008
I read what you told Kevin and thought it was some great advice to him. If you have any contributions I’d love to hear them as I am 12 years out of high school.. id love new ideas from someone still there.
i really want this to be a good guide for kids..
January 7, 2008
if i can think of anything of significance that you havent already covered, i’ll be sure to let you know Bobby..
but for now, i think im just gonna stick to learning from you. after all, i dont really have the total before, during, and after experience of High school, im still living it.. lol
January 7, 2008
Wow im in highschool and man was i waiting for this thrid lesson!!! lol
helped alot once again…thanks
January 8, 2008
“Always make them feel superior”
Style was kinda saying the same thing. “Be the one giving validation to everyone instead of seeking validation from everyone.”
Making people either feel good about themselves or well respected. It’s a good way to win over obstacles, especially men.
In a way, it could help you be the Alpha male of your social circle
-Seraf
January 8, 2008
Bobby,
Yeah it definitely applies to blogging, that’s what I was thinking as reading it. You get readers, popularity and attention for your blog by commenting on other blogs. But if you try to be a know it all or a contrarian dick by upstaging the owner of the blog, you win no friends. If you go the opposite extreme and kiss ass all day, you get no respect.
This is what I love about pickup, even though I’m not single anymore. The principles are so versatile and practical that they can be applied anywhere.
T’s last blog post..Cooking Shows Are Chick Porn
January 8, 2008
DEFINITELY do NOT be a kiss ass, people will be nice to your face but have no respect to you behind your back. Don’t be anyone’s bitch either, you’re a man and a human being just like every other one of those kids. Don’t try and win the girl’s over first either, although it is possible, no one will really like you, get to the girls through the guys. Also don’t be afraid to be funny, David D said it… that Laughter creates connection.
-Ha$h
January 8, 2008
This is actually, one of the most interesting articles i’ve read.
Its amazing how most this “Game stuffs” are the OPPOSITE of what normal people do.
“Never outshine the current establishment…in your rise to the top never let them feel insecure of you. Always make them feel superior.”
Reading this quote at first makes you go “huh?” But once you’ve understand it, its gold.
Thanks for the article Bobby, keep em’ coming, although i still haven’t finished the other homeworks XD.
Pzz
January 8, 2008
When I approach sets, I think I’ve been having a problem kissing ass and flattering. I can’t really tell, but when I record myself I can see where I kind of do it.
I’ve been able to win over obstacles in the shit I’ve been doing and saying, but I think it may be borderline ass kissing.
If so, I know the part of my game I need to work on.
-Seraf
January 8, 2008
Anyone know a good place online to buy a recorder with a small mike? (sorry, out of context here, but got the idea when I saw Seraf’s comment)
January 8, 2008
Diceman,
Their is a post on here about it that links to some good equipment
http://www.theseductionbible.com/2007/11/24/recording-your-conversations-with-women/
January 8, 2008
thanx
Diceman
January 9, 2008
Lool, that reminds me, i got a new mp4 player (Creative Zen), for christmas and has a built in microphone.
Excellent for the photo routine or videos and the microphone could come in handy!
Pzz