U kerels weet hoe groot een ventilator ik van ben Beheers Vibe reeks… hebben zij goed nu Jacht Amante werkend met hen. De jacht heeft wat stevig materiaal in het verleden geschreven en ik verheug me op zijn bijdragen tot Beheers Vibe reeks.
Onder Jacht brengt sommige goede punten over het maken van uw interactie met een vrouw ter sprake aan hen meer gedenkwaardig… dit veroorzaakt hen om een beetje te zijn meer betrokken bij de interactie.
Get Women to Commit to Interactions with You by Chase Amante
Oftentimes men, when out meeting new people, will get into great interactions with women, with good conversation, a playful vibe, even some sexual tension running beneath it all. Yet after ten or fifteen or twenty or even thirty minutes, the woman will say something along the lines of, “Well, it was nice to meet you but I’ve got to get back to my friends,” and walks away. The man stands there feeling surprised, because it seemed like it was going so well… until she abruptly left. The reason this happens is because she never committed to the interaction.
If you want to take your interactions to the next level, you need women to commit themselves to talking to you, spending time with you, just being with you in general. If you want the girls you meet to lock into you and realize that they like you, this is the way to do it.
There are several ways you can get commitment to the interaction. Here are a few things you can do to get women to commit themselves:
* Move them to another location within the same venue
* Have them change positions in the venue (sitting, standing, dancing)
* Have them wait for you while you leave for a minute
* Have them buy something for you
* Take them with you to another venue
A quick look at each of the above…
* Move girls to another location within the same venue. This is one of the easiest things you can do to get a girl invested once
you have been talking to her for a short period of time, and she is reasonably attracted to you - and it’s also one of the most
powerful. Example: you have been talking to a girl for six or seven minutes and she is very focused on you and clearly enjoys
talking to you. You say, “Let’s go sit down over there,” or, “I’m going to go grab something to drink. Come with me and let’s talk.” By going with you, she is acknowledging that she enjoys talking to you, and she is now moving SPECIFICALLY so that she can continue spending time with you. This is huge.
* Have girls change positions in the venue. If you are standing near chairs or a sofa, you can say to a girl, “Let’s sit,” then sit
down. If when you approached her she was sitting, you can say, “I’m getting tired of sitting. Let’s stand up for a minute,” then stand up. If you are sitting or standing in a bar or nightclub and you are comfortable with the dance floor, you can invite women togo dance - “Let’s hit the dance floor.” This is not as powerful as outright moving her to another part of the venue, but it can be a smaller step to build up to that if you feel like she is not yet ready to move somewhere else with you yet. Note that for building a connection it is usually best to be sitting with a girl… if she is sitting when you met her, the simple act of standing up with her, possibly going for a quick walk, then sitting back down again, can actually be quite effective in getting her to feel a good degree of commitment.
* Have women wait for you while you leave for a minute. This works especially great if you have something to leave with a girl, such as a coat, a drink, a coffee, a newspaper, etc. Ask her or tell her, “Watch my coat for a minute, I have to run to the bathroom,” then get up and leave. What this does is it gets her 1) waiting for you and 2) feeling responsible for something of yours. The commitment here is not as strong as moving her or changing positions with her, but it does nicely let her feel the difference between when she is with you and when she is not with you, and if you are having a good interaction she will be happy you returned.
* Have girls buy something for you. In a bar or nightclub, you can trade rounds of drinks, as in, “If you get this round I’ll get the next one;” another all-purpose line you can use any time you are with a girl and buying something is, “You got this one?” to persuade her to pay. When a woman buys something for you, she is making a strong statement of interest and she is investing resources in you - quite significant in her mind.
* Take women with you to another venue. If you leave a venue for another one, whether it is a park, a shop, a late-night diner, or your residence or hotel room, if she is coming with you she is making a very large commitment to being with you. She is completely abandoning where she was before to go somewhere else and do something with you.
The reason that it is so important to get women to commit to your interactions is that it makes them *realize* that they like you. Otherwise, as funny as it sounds, they might never realize it. They might really enjoy an interaction with you, but because they never moved somewhere else with you or committed themselves to the interaction, they will remember it later as no more than a nice conversation they had with a guy in a bar or a bookstore.
When a girl decides to commit herself to an interaction and move somewhere or watch your coat or buy you a drink, she becomes much more aware of the good feelings that she has for you and becomesmuch more invested in the interaction between the two of you. If it ever feels like you are meeting women but they are not getting involved enough, ask yourself if you are asking them to commit. If not… start doing it!
Chase Amante
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March 7, 2008
The fancy name for this is cognitive dissonance. People (not just women) want to believe they are rational. If they have done something they want to believe they had a reason to do it, and they will go to great lengths to come up with a reason why.
If I held his drink…it must be because he is awesome.
I gave up my seat on the couch for him…I would only do that for a cool guy.
March 7, 2008
March 7, 2008
hmm, i never noticed how this works before, but it makes complete sense to me. i know for sure that it would work for me in a place like a bookstore: for example if i got into a conversation with a guy in the aisles and it was nice, i would eventually leave, even if i liked him. but if he asked me to continue the conversation in the coffee shop there, told me to follow him to another section while he looked for a different book, or brought me somewhere else in the store to show me something interesting - all those would work. hell, it would even work in a place like the grocery store.
but i have a few question about how it would work in a bar or nightclub. i dont know how other girls work with this, but i flutter all around the bar following whatever is interesting. i will stop and trade shots with a guy at the bar for a while, then head over to the pool table to play with another guy. if its REALLY interesting, i will stick around longer, but it is already in my head that i would be moving around - it brings up no commitment on my part. so in that case, how would you be able to tell if a girl is like that, and if she is, how would you make it work? secondly - since i got so many guys in so many parts of the bar, i am often approached by a guy i hung out with previously taking me away from a guy i am hanging out with currently. if the offer sounds interesting, i will return, if its not, i will say “ill be there in a minute” or some such. this brings up the question : what do you do if another guy or her girlfriends from the area she left come to reclaim her? i imagine most girls would feel guilted or obligated to return, even if she thought you were more interesting.
March 8, 2008
Seriously excellent stuff. I can remember a few times where I’ve really been hitting it off with a woman and she just ups and leaves to ‘get back to her friends’.
In asnwer to Athenas first question: You can’t tell. You gotta be alpha enough for her to be interested.
And in answer to the second question, Id probably open the guys who came, ask him/her a few questions etc. to bring them into my frame. If you’re interesting enough, I guess they should stay with you long enough for the girl to forget and then she’ll be open to more cognotive dissonance. I speculate.
Thanks.
March 8, 2008
man, i’ve always wondered how to fix this…who knew it would be so simple. lol, but then again, most of this pua stuff is common sense..i guess it’s like they say “common sense isn’t so common”, lol.
March 8, 2008
yea odin you gotta get them invilved and then after a lil bit you gotta take her out of the group again that way you made them feel comfortable, most of the time thats why they come over “to save her” but when you show them that your fun and intresting, they see that she is ok/and wants to be around you
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March 8, 2008
Cheers Teddy Bear. Yeah I kinda knew that stuff, but the idea of ’saving her’ is quite an interesting. I think i might approach a girl with the opener ‘you look like you nees saving, isn’t it funny that everyone here is wearing black’ etc. etc.
March 8, 2008
This is a really important post to anyone’s game. If your in the middle of a sarge, there comes a point where a girl decides whether she wants 2 stay with you or not. Adding these tips will sway her decision to stick around w/ ya.
March 9, 2008
Great advice and well broken down here. I’d like to ask a question of Chase or anyone else who can answer. Assuming a 20-30′ timeframe, at one point are you going for a k-close or even a pull? Are you doing this within the 20′, or after the 1st (or 2nd) venue change or other technique for cementing her commitment to the interaction? I’m not familiar with the Master the Vibe system so was wondering. Thanks.
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March 9, 2008
Damn, i didnt even realize chase wrote this.
Well propz for this good article, i definitely agree with this concept, mayn times, the girl leave even though we’re having a good time, changing venues, would keep it more interesting..Not only that, but i think the commitment part plays the largest role - since you just met, it would be pretty effective.
Thanks for sharing.
Pzz
March 9, 2008
well lance, there really is no time frame to go for the kiss close. It all really depends on several varibles the woman, the atmosphere, and the location. for example matador with his cavemanning can get it real quick while sometimes I don’t get the kiss until day 2. sometimes you can get it in 20 mins or less. its really when you feel you have enough kino and comfort you just go for it. or you can use mysterys kiss gambit( it works very well ) hope that helps
March 10, 2008
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March 14, 2008
You have to be smooth when doing all of these things, she has to really be into you or else you going to get shot down or seem rude. You cant be like
Here, hold this!
or
Get up!
it has to have a reason say like
Hold this real quick i want to show you something
or
some with me i want to show you the most amazing/funny/cool thing.
March 18, 2008
I have found one really quick way to open and get comitment from a woman, scenario is standing in line anywhere, i get in line behind the target and just ask if she will hold what ever i have in my hand for a second, then i walk off. I come back about a minute late and then open her, it works 50/50 i actually think it works beter on hb7 or higher.