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On the radio show last Friday Mike and I got into a discussion about the importance of penis size. It is an age old question: How much do girls care about the size of your Boss?
Girls can talk all they want about “its not the size of the boat… but motion of the ocean…” but the truth is penis size plays a bigger role than you think.
We’d love to hear some girl’s opinions on this.
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Comment by Stealth on 29 April 2008:
I watched this documentary on the BBC that had the Worlds Largest Penis. The guys said that they didn’t like having a big penis because they couldn’t put it in all the way, and the women didn’t like it because it would hurt.
Small penis’s aren’t that bad if you know how to turn on the girl through other means, but in the long term it may cause issues, so you have to have a great personality, and a girl that doesn’t care about it too much. I saw a Howard Stern episode where they had a small penis contest, and those guys had really small dicks, but as one of the guys said, it grows much bigger when it’s hard.
I’m average, and I just banged my fb. There’s nothing wrong with an average size wang if you have a good personality, and you can turn her on in other ways too.
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Comment by Geoffrey on 29 April 2008:
Yes, there definitely is a psychological component to penis size, but when it comes down to it, women are too hypersensitive at the opening to tell the difference for the most part and have very little sensitivity on the inside. Of course, if you’re hitting her cervix because you’re so big or you can’t really get it in because you’re too small, that’s a totally different story.
Also, most women don’t even know what’s big or small. Ask a woman to show you 6 inches with her hands and she will probably come up about an inch to two inches short.
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Comment by evilwoobie on 29 April 2008:
Size is very relative. IMHO, a girl who had her first cums with a biggie, will prefer biggies over cuties in the future. And the opposite is true with a girl who enjoyed her first sex encounters with a ’small’ guy. In fact, her perception of what’s small and what’s big depends on who she did it with first, and if she enjoyed that first sex.
Nonetheless, sex is still 99% mental for women and those guys who can turn a girl on to a feverish, delirious pitch (through foreplay/kissing) will be able to make her cum MORE than a guy who skips foreplay altogether just to get to the banging part ASAP… regardless of size.
In conclusion, it’s safe to bet that penis size matters more to men than women.
Sorry for re posting the comments, something happened to the original post and I had to delete it.
Woobie, I agree with your "it’s relative to previous experiences", like we said on the radio show. Although I think that 99% mental is way off! If it was that mental, why would we still be sooo physical? It’s sooo mental cause we are aware it is actually happening. IMO
Ask a woman to show you 6 inches with her hands and she will probably come up about an inch to two inches short.
Geoffrey, maybe if you said show me 6 inches, yes, she might be an inch or 2 off. But I would think that she would know/notice that difference when she felt it.
Stealth, a lot of guys are "growers no show-ers" lol
So, 6′ is… normal? Define ‘big’ in a man’s POV. And is it true that shoe size is an indication? I never really associated the two, but im not a guy, so I have to ask.
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yeah, 6 is considered the average – most guys i talk to who are unhappy with their size dream of a 9. and from what i have seen personally – shoe size is NOT an indication. AT ALL.Â
i care about size – now, im not going to squabble over an inch or two, and wouldnt enjoy someone 9 or above. and yes, inside is not so sensitive – thats why you need the bigger dicks! its a matter of how much pressure over how many different areas all at once.
but there are so many factors to this – the girls normal size for one, also – the more turned on she gets, the more she expands inside. weird, but true.  so the more into it she is, the bigger of a dick you need to keep the same pressure. there is also personal preference for how much pressure and depth you like.
and i know i sound like a bitch when i say it, but i will NOT be with a guy who has what i consider a small dick. i dont care how perfect we are together, or how well you use it – its just not going to happen. i need a dick for a reason, and you simply CANNOT fulfill that need without a certain amount of size.
And as far as I know and have herd, 6′ is a little above average.. I think 4.5-5′ is the average. It also depends a lot on girth too.. 6′Â and thick is far different from 6′ and thin, ladies?
Kind of like in Duce Bigelow, the detective who had the thin dick..lol
i dont know, i havent seen a dick so thin it would bug me. im sure they are out there, but all ive seen have been pretty well proportioned. Â
actually, whats worse than skinniness is it not getting hard enough. some guys just dont get as hard as others.
PENIS SIZE FUCKING MATTERS. lol
well then u have at it fuck face, bye the way why dont’ we just go ahead and kill off all the fucking guys with small dicks and we will see how money motherfucking guys you will have and oh yeah most of them i guarantee will be homosexuals.
most studies say the same as this – of course, its difficult to get truly accurate results, since methods of measurement, sample sizes and biases vary. but if you mush them all together, they come up with results like this:
http://wwwu.edu.uni-klu.ac.at/amiklaut/dr_nick/answer19.htm
Hey girls, my penis is 6.2 inches, wud u be happy with that or wud u look for bigger in a man?
This is rather depressing for men such as myself who are nothing more than a 5. I am not particularly breadthy either, not at all in fact. ah well. I guess I’ll just have to find a girl who isn’t that concerned with sex as to dismiss my other incredible qualities (which I do have, however much people like to tell me different). I’ve thought about it in the past and it has slowed me down with regards to the courtship ritual, out of fear of what she might say or do. To be honest though, I wouldn’t want to be with a girl who breaks up with someone because they are less than substantial in the nether regions. I do find the whole situation a bit tiresome, especially when underendowed men think they are lesser men because of it. Manhood has nothing to do with the downstairs. Think of Michaelangelo’s David for example, the most perfectly formed man, supposedly, and then look at his tiddley todger. It doesn’t bother me and it shouldn’t bother others. It is precisely websites like this that fuel male insecurity and indeed female prejudice. Get over it guys, girls and get down to business!
Actually the average size is 5.1-5.9 according to study’s sited on wikipedia. From what i’ve read the vast majority of men fall within an inch of that give or take, so i wouldn’t be so bummed out about it. I’ve had the same insecurities, and interrogated a couple girls over it, but i’m average just as most men are. I think more men should read the studies rather than listen to their buddy’s and some woman who are just as prone to exaggeration. Like all men I wish I was 8 inches, but even if I was 4 inches or something, I could give a crap less, why focus so much on something that you have no control over.
I think that most guys see the big dicks in porn and then use that standard to judge themselves. A lot of woman use the same standard and develop unrealistic expectations about what size to expect. My opinion at this point, is that if a girl is that preoccupied with dick size she’s a) had a lot of dicks to judge from or b) totally superficial, in either case they’re not worth the time or insecurity. BTW, some woman are tight, and some woman are loose, so I don’t think the onus can always be placed on the man anyway. I’m not religious, but I think that romantic love is far more important than size, so long as there is a baseline attraction.
Henry,
We are not trying to fuel anything, we are simply discussing how it plays a factor whether we like it or not.
I do find the whole situation a bit tiresome, especially when under endowed men think they are lesser men because of it. Manhood has nothing to do with the downstairs. It is precisely websites like this that fuel male insecurity and indeed female prejudice. Get over it guys, girls and get down to business!
You are not less of man due to this factor, it does however matter to certain girls and I feel it’s important to understand as a man.
Websites like this? We keep it real here, and the facts are that it matters to some degree. Period.Â
We are not here to lie and inflate egos of our fellow man, just to share opinions and help educate our peers on our experiences.
That said, Welcome Henry!
porn probably idealizes the big penis stereotype.
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theres a stereotype now?
it matters to some, doesnt matter to others.Â
some guys are so touchy about it, but girls face the same issue with breast size.
well this is gonna be an on going discussion… it something we just have to live with get over it. If you’ve got a small penis get surgery, pills or get over it. If you’re packing more power to you…
that was really really funny. thanks for the plug. penis are like ipod’s its small is the new big.it’s about how much ram you got.(not that i have a small dick, If  I did i would surely shot my self by now. )
he he. You said RAM..
I hav above 5 inches(5.5″).and i thought it’s too small.but most of girls i had sex told me that size doesn’t important.and they liked long sexual intercourse time.and caring their needs.
5.5 is average, and girth makes a difference I feel small and I got 6.5 but it is a fat one and stays rock hard so I don’t complain, I’m glad God didn’t make me too small but for the small guys there are pills , pumps and etc to help u for the softies get a cock ring and everyone needs to be a tounge master like me and I’m sure you’ll be fine
Mike if you are the king of pounding vagh
I AM THE TOUNGE MASTER and any girl I done it to will agree
And I’m willing to defend my title lol but I’m going after yours mike
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since television, politics, competition among the sexes, hollywood/corporate sales which benefit from insecurity, a….and all the rest seem to not only to dwell on penis size as varying pleasure through pushing on the vagina walls with size instead of twisting or in filling length…but nowadays politics has entered into it… the small penis/vs big penis has become a thing where small penis guys are actually demonized as being suspicious morally whereas the big penis guys are somehow supposed to be more trustable or full of virtue. …. given that aspect…. it is not surprising that women feel sort of like they can’t be feminine around men and like to scream for size… and guys can’t be like argentinian tango dancers even if they can just give clitoral orgasms … or gspot orgasms… but then again… very very few women … (a few porn stars perhaps) can get a true sole vaginal orgasm w/ no clit w/ no gspot … oh well …. demonizing both men and women it seems…. but thats just 50+ one night stands by age 32 talking…
…oh yeah, i’m 7 inches and have been with all sizes of vaginas…
Question: How do you measure it? Along the bottom or the top?
You can tell I’m trying to squeeze what I can out of the damn tape measure. Also you can always say ‘I’m a 10′. Whose to know you actually mean centimetres LOL
Here’s just a reflection on evolution (granted that you believe it): We are actually at the point of human history where sexual selection is now in operation determining the future anatomical morphology of humans, especially in terms of the male genital size. With the increasing obsession over penial size, with the idealization–and worship–of the huge phallus, the standard of which is set and perpetuated mainly in phornography, with the open admission that size does matter, with the open disclosures of discontent over smaller sizes and with women’s collective minds being more and more conditioned towards the preference for huge penises, time will come when the human penis will be enormous–at least 8″ in length at first because that seems to be the ideal, but unless there is an advent of a contrary trend in the future–ie, the preference for tiny penises, this eight-inch ideal could grow more to gigantic proportions. How is this possible? Well, women will tend to mate more with men who have bigger penises and will have children by them–thus, the genes for big penises are passed on to future generations. Furthermore, men with smaller penises are rendered more insecure and will eventually suffer from impotence, thus decreasing their chance to mate more often. This maybe a good discussion: Is this a pretty picture of the future or not?
I think it’s a bit more complicated than that. How is the woman going to know beforehand how big your dick is? Sure she might not sleep with you again if it’s small, but if 60-70% of the guys have the same basic proportions, then she’s gotta be really promiscuous to object, and as i understand it, the woman’s biological imperative is gonna be quality over quantity, since she’s likely to do most of the child rearing. Plus there are other factors other than dick size that are important, such as resources, intelligence, etc…
If this were the only factor that mattered we’d probably have a bunch of big dicked primates for a couple generations, and then die off.
actually i don’t think even if a women mates with a man with a big dick will always mean the offspring will be that lucky. there are things out there called deformities and defects. look it the fuck up.
How ironic – I am around 5’8″ and have a 7″+ that has some pretty decent girth so in proportion it looks even bigger on me than it already is…I find it ironic that I have this “talent” but have not been with a woman in almost two years and its not for a lack of trying – my game is just terrible…women assume that a taller or overall bigger man will have a bigger member but that is not the case with me….
actually kurt – from what i have seen, the shorter, smaller guys are usually more well endowed than the taller and thicker ones.
not like im a tease or a whore or anything, but i DID spend a few years trying to see how many dicks i could see (without touching them). harder than it sounds…
I dont see why women compare the breast size issue with the penis size issue…….the size of a womens breast doesnt affect how a mans sexuall pleasure….but a man with a small penis supposedly can never bring a women pleasure so theres the issue on the mans part….Also, even though breast size doesnt matter women can go get implants…..men can do nothing when it comes to their penis size…..so if you’re not comfortable with your breast go enlarge them….too bad us men can’t say the same thing.
Some woman cum at the drop of the hat, and for some reason there are woman out there that don’t cum at all, I think it’s more a matter of the woman’s biology than dick size. As far as pleasuring a woman is concerned, going down on her is a much surer bet that she’ll have a good orgasm since the clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman’s sex organs and is external. Dick size has nothing to do with it. Eating pussy is a million times more important than penetration if the woman’s satisfaction is your primary concern.
So Athena, what do you consider “small”?…In your opinion alone.
These days there are so many pills that make a big difference and other extenders that really work.
One day they will release a penis cure to make it bigger but fda wont allow it yet.
Then the world will shut up about penis crap and find somehting else to bitch about.
Hey im 5.5in and all the women i have been with have alaways been back 4 more wake her feal good and know how 2 use ur mouth n hands and ur dic will satisfy everytime
hey guyz…….dont worry bout ur sizes too much…..i am 5.6 but all the girls i have been havin sex with love me……….and two of them just had a fight like a week back…….so chill i beleive my mouth too………i can lick a girl properly and then use my 5.6 power horsee.
This is especially funny for me to read being that I’m Asian and grew up thinking that every man in America must have 8″ erections because they tried to make fun of me so much. It would be nice to be larger, but I don’t like the idea of altering my natural hormonal chemistry to try some of these treatments. I figure that I’m 5’11″, smart, creative, funny, and athletic.
If I lose out on women because I’m only 5.75 inches, so be it. In the free market of sexual partners, ideal matches will find each other assuming that they don’t give up and get all dejected and demoralized by what they cannot control. I do what I can to have a fun night together, set the mood, get her going with foreplay, and continue stimulating her with more than just my dick during sex (fingering her clit, massaging breasts, running hands along her body, etc)
On a side note, I have yet to stick to a jelqing regimen, but I’ve read that you can add an extra half inch to an inch that way. I know that in the brief spurts (lol) that I’ve done jelqing, my erection has gotten much stronger. I also know that kegels have the same effect. I think I’ll incorporate them into a workout plan – gotta work all the muscles, ya know? I’m curious to see if there’s any measurable “improvement” if I try it for an extended period of time.
Let me know if anyone stumble upon this article and knows of any decent supplements. I tend to think that most of them are scams, with the possible exception of Enzyte (because it’s mainstream enough to reach daytime television where advertising is more accountable for false claims).
The whole world is in dire need of an enima.
classy.
Hey Athena!
Long time no see… where ya been?
Hiya! I slowed down here when I was having problems logging in and you guys made a lot of changes. Been hanging out at some other (rather naughty) sites and playing a lot of online poker. Still been enjoying the emails/newsletters you send out, checking up every now and again, and recommending the site to all in need. Just HAD to come see what genius responded to my comment. Looks like you already deleted it. Oh yeah, and I’m married now!
Hope you guys have been doing well?