Kansloos van het leren hoe te om vrouwen te ontmoeten is dat tijdens de het leren fase u te zwaar wordt geïnvesteerd in al dan niet „het“ werkt. Op dit punt begrijpt u het concept dat u niet zou moeten geven welke vrouwen denken, maar elke actie u voert is een berekende beweging die wordt ontworpen om hen ertoe te brengen om een bepaalde manier te denken. Op dit punt is het geven van wat niet zij denken enkel een handeling u aanzet, omdat in werkelijkheid u wordt geobsedeerd met wat zij denken.
Dat is waarschijnlijk één van de grootste hindernissen een bestelwagenkunstenaar vóór echt succesvol het worden moet overwinnen met vrouwen.
Today I was driving in my car and I looked over at the car next to me. In the car was an average looking soccer mom type. We exchanged glances. Well, after exchanging a look with me, this soccer mom pulls out a tissue and blows her nose. I was shocked.
Why? Because a woman who cares what you think would never pull out a tissue and blow her nose right in front of you. Obviously this woman had more important things on her mind then flirting with me.
Would you pull out a tissue and blow your nose in front of a girl?
How many of the decisions do you make a daily basis are influenced by your desire to impress a woman? Do you go to the gym to live a healthier lifestyle, or to look better for the ladies? Did you buy the car your driving for you, or for them?
The truly attractive and charismatic people in this world are the ones that live by their own set of principles. They don’t bend or break for anyone. They are on a path in life, and if you want to join them fine, but if not, they aren’t concerned.
Are you on your path, or are you following the crowds?
If you’re following the crowd then I suggest reading a recent post on this site by Life Coach Justin called “Build it and they will come.” The article is all about how becoming fulfilled and focused in other areas of your life will naturally lead to more success with women.
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May 5, 2008
i agree, this is the hardest and most effective step in seducing. all the very best i’ve seen have just walked up to the most beautiful women in the room like it didnt even occur to them that they would be rejected. and if they WERE rejected, it didnt phase them at all.
i always try to keep saying to guys i meet that this art of seduction is NOT about manipulation, or making girls think differently about you, or getting into their head, or even presenting an image.
its just that, men and women communicate and see things differently. unless you learn a woman’s view, you will be sending out signals that ARENT YOU.
all of this work, all of this learning - its not so you can play mental chess with them, its so you can speak women’s language. the whole point is to present YOURSELF in a way a woman can understand and respond to.
its not a game you are playing - just a language you are speaking.
STOP WORRYING about WHAT THEY THINK about what you are saying in this language - as long as you got the language down.
May 5, 2008
Both good points…
The language thing is KEY….just don’t know if WOMEN know their own language! haha The chick I was with last night would say one thing…then literally five minutes later she would contradict herself!!! SOOOOO confusing
I could use improvement in both not caring what people think and speaking the language
One thing I’ve been doing that has sorta helped is thinking of women as cousins or little sisters…it gives me the frame of caring for them and wanting to have fun with them but also demands their respect and equal interaction
it just gets a little weird when you escalate physically…ewe! haha
For me, I need to learn women’s language, AND also guy-to-guy language and others…when you start off as a social tard, you have to learn ALL languages
May 5, 2008
So right Athena..
Think about Attorneys and Judges, the reason they make big money is because they speak and understand the language. Same goes for Technology, Real Estate, in fact just about every niche in life..
May 6, 2008
Can you believe how many people attack the unique-minded people? Like, conform or die. It’s funny though that the really magnificent things that happened in this world are here because of the non-conformists.
Love the post.
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May 7, 2008
Good post and I think it’s right on. Though, it should be clear that people don’t get the message wrong and confuse it with not caring at all. There’s a difference between not caring what you think and not caring what other people think. For instance, if you don’t care that your body language is closed off, if you don’t care that you’re a slob with no manners, if you don’t care that you’re a social retard, then that certainly isn’t going to help you attract more women….at least I don’t think.
I think the right message to get across is to care about yourself but to not care how others perceive you.
Solid stuff.
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