Zo, nu weet u waarom het een goed idee is om een bos van plaatsen te bezoeken en een bos van dingen te doen terwijl op een datum met een meisje. Het het weten is de helft van de slag. Nu moet u de andere helft van die slag behandelen, en *apply* dat kennis.

Zou kunnen zijn dat u een uitstekende ontwerper bent. Maar als u als me bent, wacht u' til van het laatste ogenblik, dan poging om iets te werpen samen slapdash en hoop het werkt. What comes in handy in that case is having a set date to go on, or a group of known places you can choose from that you like taking girls to on dates.

The idea of having a “set date” is having a string of different places or activities you take each woman you date to. Ever realize how common it is in romance stories that a man says something along the lines of, “You’re the only woman I’ve ever brought here,”? Well, the idea behind that, and the reason that sentiment seems so romantic, is that on most dates, men take women to the same places they’ve taken scores of other women! It’s actually quite common, for one very good reason: it works. Once you find a set date (things you like doing, places you like going), there’s not much reason to do something completely different next time with the next girl (unless it’s something YOU really want to do!!).

Here are a few examples of date plans I’ve used that led to me being with a few really amazing women:

Example 1

- Meet at subway station
- Walk to shopping mall
- Window shop - buy books, check out clothing stores
- Grab a bite to eat
- Go outside, take pictures
- Head to Dave & Buster’s to play games
- Back to my place to watch movie and relax

Example 2

- Meet at Starbucks to get coffee (hot chocolate for me!) and talk
- Get on train, head downtown to comedy show
- After show, head back to my place to check out my travel
souvenirs

Example 3

- Meet at my place
- Go to liquor store to buy liquor for drinks
- Go to grocery store to buy ingredients for dinner
- Back to my place to mix drinks and cook dinner
- Sit and talk and drink after dinner

Choose what kind of date to have by what your girl seems like she’dbe open to and what you’d like to do. If she seems like she really wants to get together, invite her over to have some dinner and drinks. If she seems like she needs to get to know you a little better first, do something else like meet for coffee or go window shopping so you can build a better connection with her.

And there are so many more places you can go and things you can do. It’s also a lot of fun go with girls to get ice cream; to explore your town or city (especially if you’re new in town - ask her to give you a tour!); to check out the tourist sites; to do something fun and physical (like rock climbing or laser tag). The possibilities are limited only by your imagination!

Really, the only thing you absolutely HAVE to do is have *fun*. You must be enjoying yourself, and she should be too. If you cover that base, and proceed to go on a series of adventures with her, she will quickly feel like she’s known you forever, and you can get your girl a lot sooner than the guys who are still doing “dinner and a movie”.

Chase Amante

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