Я недавн написал a столб о «болезни.» Болезнь основно когда она идет за oneitis. Болезнь теряет все управление ваших взволнованностей над девушкой… к пункту, котор вы не делаете рациональные решения.
В этой radio передаче выставки мы talk about болезнь, как вы знаете вы идет через ее, и вы можете сделать для того чтобы получить над им. Я говорю немного о моих опытах с болезнью, и ошибках которые я совершил in dealing with она.
Я могу только понадеяться что вы все можете выучить от моего heartbreak.
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May 9, 2008
Oh, the sickness. Yes, it all began 10 years ago. I was a sufferer as Bobby mentioned. We all have been there. We all know that the sickness can indeed be overwhelming and can overtake your whole psyche and affect you in ways that you can never imagine. I remember once I called out of a bartending shift and lost out on an easy $200 to be available in case my "sickness" focus called and wanted to hang out. Yes, because she said she “might” call me after she got out of a local bar- I wanted to be available.
Over the years, I have also found some ways to work through the “sickness” although as Bobby alludes to: you can only do so much while you let time pass. Here are some tips that I have learned and now give to Life Coaching clients. Even if they don’t all appeal to you see if you can implement one.
1) Remember that she is not in your head- as "sick" as you may be- she does not know it and is probably underestimating how "sick" you are- if she knows you are at all. This can sometimes give you a little emotional comfort. I remember a time that Bobby had gotten some sickness over a girl and it got really bad for a while. Then she came up to him one day a few months later and said: "I thought that you hated me." If only she had known…LOL.
2) Know on some level that the "sickness" is really you saying deep down: "This girl liking me can make me feel so good about myself. My self-esteem is dependent on it." You may not want to admit it and may even resent me writing this but you know it is true. The point is: this is a message from the Universe to build your self-esteem up from the inside out. See your life as a classroom and this as a lesson and cue to not be as dependent on any women’s opinion for your sense of self worth.
3) Laugh about it! Yes, laugh. Bobby, Mike, and I can sit around for hours and laugh about our "sickness" stories. Every now and then, even those of us with girlfriends, can slip into it. See it as comical- just as you would other imperfections in your personality. Find other men who have gone through it and release the frustrated energy by talking and laughing about it.
4) One last thing. There is a quote that I have learned to love and it is from Twelve-Step recovery programs: "Don’t judge others’ outsides by your insides." In other words people are not as confident as they may look on the outside and suffer from insecurities, fears, and doubts as you do. This includes all of those beautiful women that we can all be so susceptible to get "sick" over. I remember a very wise woman once told me: "Justin if you heard the way many women talk in private, you would not find them half as attractive as you do."
I know that these tips may be hard to remember and follow when you are mired in the sickness but do your best, keep it fun, seek support, and see it as part of your evolutionary journey toward greater confidence, happiness, and freedom. As Fredrick Nietzsche used to say: "That which doesn’t kill us makes us stronger." As we know the sickness can come pretty close, but it probably won’t kill us. Best wishes- Justin
May 9, 2008
hahaha I remember the "raven" incident like it was yesterday. I was sweating the shit out of her… and months later she says "i thought you hated me…"
May 9, 2008
During my extreme case of the sickness a few years back, i think a lot had to do with the fact that the girl in question was a girl many people didn’t think i was capable of scoring… so when i did my self esteem went sky high… and when she took that away from me I needed to get it back… I was more on quest to get that "achievment high" back then I was to get her back.
Moral is: LIke justin said, if you’re continually working on inner strength you’l be more likely to avoid the sickness
May 11, 2008
Justin
Number 4 is so true. After listening to females talk about different things to and around me that is so true. They do have just as many if not more insecurities as the next average person.
May 11, 2008
Say "I never really loved you anyway" at least a hundred times. Maybe someday you’ll even believe it yourself. Wonderful Corrs song too.
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August 2, 2008
Trying to find some time for yourself in this busy world is the right thing to cure the sickness….
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