这是我们的新系列第一岗改善比赛的31天。 在下31天期间我每天张贴一个新的教训… 许多不同的bloggers和教练为这个系列递交了文章… 并且我相当确信，如果您跟随这个系列从开始到实施什么您学会了…您的结束将看结果。
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设计您的生活
The first step you need to take to improve any area of your life is determining your desired outcome. The title of this series is 31 Days to Better Game… but “better game” has a different meaning for everyone reading this. In order to fully experience and appreciate the lessons you’ll receive over the next 31 days you need to have a clearly defined end result.
Having a clearly defined end result means knowing exactly where you want to be 31 days from now. How will you look after you’ve achieved better game? How will you act? What kind of girls will you be dating? Sleeping with? What will a day in your life look like once you’ve got this area of your life mastered? How will you feel? What kind of thoughts will be running through your mind?
These are all questions that you can not ignore. This step is more important than any lesson you will learn from here on out.
If you have had difficulty with talking to women, managing a relationship, building attraction.. or any other area of your life… until you develop a clearly defined goal for yourself your mind will continue producing the same results you’ve always gotten.
Have you read the book The Secret? Or how about Real Magic? Or Think and Grow Rich? These three books (if read and implementing correctly) are worth their weight in gold.
These three books all explore the ancient principle that your mind will create whatever reality you present it. This means that if you consistently think of the lack in your life (of women, money, friendship) the universe will continue to provide you a life of lack. But if you train your mind to see abundance (of women, money) the universe will provide you a life of abundance.
If this sounds new age and hokey… wait a minute. I felt the same way years ago when I was presented with this concept. But I’m going to safely say that it is magic.
I want all of you reading this to put aside your personal opinions and judgments and reservations. I want you to trust me and give this a chance.
Your Homework
Everyone reading this needs to set aside one hour in a quiet place. Take a pen and paper with you. You need to close your eyes and spend the next thirty minutes visualizing yourself as your Ideal Self. Imagine clearly what you will look like, feel like, and act like once you’ve mastered this area of your life.
As you run this image through your mind, pay attention to the way you walk, the way your voice sounds, the thoughts running through your mind, visualize yourself in the company of the woman you want to be with. Clearly imagine the women and note the way you interact with them.
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June 10, 2008
This is why I love this site. Yes, this is called “31 Days to better Game” but it really focuses on every area of your life. I mean, this idea above can really be focused on your entire life, not just “Game”. I plan on following this.
June 11, 2008
I think this is what separates TSB from the pick up sites out there (where it’s becoming harder to classify TSB as a “pick up” site). It reminds me of the guys who memorizes a dozen routines created by OTHER guys but has nothing interesting to talk about when he runs out. And he posts on forums all day asking what he didn’t close.
Roosh’s last blog post..4 Tips On Coffee Shop Dating
June 11, 2008
I’ve read Think and Grow Rich (just finished it actually) and it’s PROFOUND. Seriously, any person that is interested in having a millionaire mindset, ownership, business, and wealth should read this book. It’s the best $14 you’ll spend.
I haven’t read the other two, but I’ll def. check them out. Great post!
lance’s last blog post..Congratulations to Me!
June 11, 2008
If you want something REALLY profound… read about Stockdale’s Paradox…
“You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end — which you can never afford to lose — with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.”
Google it…
Brad’s last blog post..The Yin and Yang of Ego
June 11, 2008
Roosh, that comment is classic!
June 11, 2008
Well i’m back, i’ve been off this site for quite a while as i have been very busy.
Looks like i got alot of articles to read XD.
Nonetheless its going to a be a long kick ass summer, as i have many goals to achieve.
Coincidentially,I happened to run into the beginning of this “desigining your life challenge”.
Definitely adding this to my to-do list.
I see the concepts of The Secret has been used..Very interested and willing to take part.
Thanks
Pzz
June 12, 2008
if you guys REALLY want to take this further, you can!
after you have finished this exercise, start figuring out “why” or “what will this goal get me?”.
you see, what you REALLY want is usually pretty simple, are there are plenty of ways to get it. but because of how we are raised, or the first idea that pops into our head, we generally only see one path to it. then we stick to that path even after it doesnt get us what we wanted from it in the first place.
for example, some dude spends years and years to become a doctor. in the end, he realizes he is not happy. why? well, with this guy, what he really wanted in life was respect. and he thought (subconsciously) “doctors get respect, i will be a doctor”. after a while, he forgot about the respect part, and just focused on the doctor part. along the way, he discarded all the other ways to get respect, and ended up without any at all!
he could have saved a lot of time and money if he just focused on the reason BEHIND his goal instead of the goal itself.
a lot of people do this with money. they want money - but why? what will that money get them? power? freedom? security? often they lose site of the “why” and only focus on the “how”. then they reach their goal, and wonder why they arent happy!
so if you want, when you have that perfect image of what you want in your head - look at each goal and ask “what will achieving that goal actually GET me?” “whats behind it?” “will this goal actually GIVE me what i want, or is it an illusion?” “is there a better or easier way to get the same result?”
i know it sounds new-age-y, but knowing WHY you want what you want, is more important than simply knowing what you want.
June 12, 2008
You’ll save yourself a lot of time and energy if you go within and try to discover what you truly desire.
I’ve said it before, a lot of guys never become PUAs because what they really want deep inside is an intimate relationship with a woman. Had they admitted that to themselves from the beginning they could have went after what they really wanted rather than trying to learn something that isn’t congruent with who they are.
July 1, 2008
i can tell this is gonna be some powerful shiit.
looking forward to continuing this..
July 19, 2008
Bobby, Athena and everyone else who actualize utilizes this stuff, I’d love to hear more and more from you all about this.
I did watch the Secret awhile back and instantly go excited. Yeah… t may sound a little bizarre especially to some people who are naturally more skeptic than others but if true, this really is INCREDIBLE!
Cory Skyy apparently has a program called’Magnetic Mindset’ which uses some of these concepts from ‘The Secret’ to help better your interactions/confidence with women.