How to Master Push-Pull and Cocky-Funny (day 11)

Me: OMG! (Then, with a sigh and a love-sick puppy dog look, I say after lowering my hands) Im in love with you Give me your number. (Pull #1)
HB (shocked): Huh? Are you crazy? Why?
Me (with an incredulous look on my face): Why? I mean, just look at you. Youre driving me crazy. It should be a crime for you to walk in public. (Pull #2)
HB (breaking out laughing): Where are you from?
Me: From? It doesnt matter. I want your number. (Pull #3)
HB (laughing): No way. First tell me where youre from.
Me: Okay, guess.
HB: Um, China?
Me: Pretty close(Taking a step closer to her so that were inches apart, I say in a quieter tone,) You know, youre making me really nervous. My hands are all cold and sweaty. Here, feel. (Then, I take her hand in mine). (Pull #4)
HB (laughing): Youre not nervous.
Me (throwing off her hand and looking shocked): Are you calling me a liar? Ive just confessed my deep dark love for you, and now youre calling me a liar? Thas it. Were getting a divorce But Im keeping the DVDs. You can have the dog. (Push #1)
HB laughed.
I said nothing and continued looking fake-mad.
HB said (with a smile): Okay, bye, and started walking off.
Me (stepping out in front of her again and knowing that shes just teasing and wants me to chase her): No, wait. You cant go. Ill be so sad Im going to go home and cry now (and then I slumped my shoulders as if completely sad and depressed). (Pull #5)
HB laughed.
Me (perking up and letting out a sly smile): Okay, give me your number.
HB (laughs): Okay.
We talked a little bit more, then I let her go back to her friends.

I texted her about an hour later, and she texted back, asking what I was doing tomorrow But thats for another LR.

Notice the push-pull ratio here. That was 5 pulls to 1 push. The one push came after 4 pulls. In fact, I dont even think that push was necessary.

This sort of Pull Cocky-Funny can get you super fast makeouts and, as my natural friends have shown, club bathroom sex. For an example of a fast makeout, see the LR that features my first encounter with Natural-MD: (see field report here) . There are many other tales to recount about naturals such as him, some of which you can find elsewhere on my site and some of which I might write about in the future. Youll have to check back for those.

Another great example comes from Zan. Among the community old-timers, Zan is probably the best representative of this kind of cocky-funny. If you havent read any of his materials yet, check the mASF archives or google,enlightened seduction.

There are so many possibilities to choose from, but this conversation of his has stuck in my mind for a while now:

ZAN: Come out with me for a drink tonight. I will pick you up at 7.
HER: I can’t. My boyfriend wouldn’t like it.
ZAN: Oh hey, I understand… let’s make it 8 then.

I never, ever worry about a woman’s resistance to me. If she says she is not interested and leaves, no problem. But if I ever see her again, I immediately go up to her, smile and wink, and pick up right where I left off. As if she had never resisted me in the first place. In other words, her boyfriend objections (or whatever) mean nothing to me.

ZAN: (big smile) Hello, sweetie. Did you miss me?
HER: Hardly.
ZAN: I want to see you. Tell me your number and I’ll remember it.
HER: No! I told you last time I have a boyfriend.
ZAN: Oh, so you’re still seeing Norman?
HER: Uh… his name’s not Norman.
ZAN: (smile, wink) Really? That’s very interesting. I have two bottles of champagne at home.
HER: No thanks.
ZAN: One to drink and one to pour all over your body…
HER: You never give up, do you?
ZAN: Of course not! Wouldn’t be the same if I did, would it?
HER (laughing) No, I suppose not…

I find this whole exchange completely charming and hilarious. Zan pulls her in about seven times. Just about everything he says is a pull.

Hes cocky because he believes that shed be crazy to turn him down. So her objections dont even register with him. This is the ideal kind of frame to be operating from when doing Pull Cocky-Funny.

So there you have it. Push Cocky-Funny vs. Pull Cocky-Funny. Both can work. But if you have good fundamentals (body language, tonality, and basic inner game), or youre good-looking, or you have high perceived social value, and you are interacting with a confident and attractive woman, then you can get faster seductions and make deeper connections by doing more Pull than Push, around 80%-20% is ideal. And keep it all funny J

Feedback appreciated!

Happy playin, The Asian Rake.