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HOW DO I SET UP MY PROFILE SO IT ATTRACTS WOMEN?

Note: I will be specifically focusing on MySpace and Facebook because these are by far the largest social networking sites on the planet. But the underlying principles are universal and many of the guys we have successfully coached used them all over the world on sites like Bebo, Match, Orkut, Hyves, Friendster, etc.

There are many elements that go into setting up your profile correctly. Here are the major things to keep in mind as you design your profile:

Keep in mind the type of girl you want to attract. Remember to create a profile that is appealing to the type of girl you want to attract. If you want a bad girl with tattoos, you need to create a profile that connects with that type of girl. Once again, if you are unsure, go to the profiles of the types of girls you want to attract
and copy their style or the style of the guy friends they have.

Simplicity and Readability

Your mom was right about making things legible. You want your profile to be as easy to read as possible. Women will abandon your profile quickly if it takes too much effort to get an idea of who you are. A good way to start out is to use a solid background with contrasting text colors (i.e white text on a black background or any light on dark color scheme). You don’t need to go overboard in this area; simplicity and readability is the key.

When to write and what to write

Take careful consideration about what you write about yourself. If you try to write about how cool you are, the fun things you do, the beautiful women you hang out with every weekend, etc, you will be perceived as trying to hard to gain approval. And girls who don’t know you have no reason to spend their time reading about you unless you’ve compelled them to.

Things you DONT WANT to do in your About Me section:

• DO NOT try to sell yourself by talking about how cool you are, the fun things you do, the beautiful women you hang out with, etc. You will be perceived as trying to hard to gain approval.

• DO NOT write your life story. Girls who don’t know you have no reason to spend their time reading about you. They will most likely see this and say “I don’t know you, I don’t care”. It is better to be brief yet have variety and keep her guessing, than to write your whole life story and bore her.

• DO NOT be overly offensive

• DO NOT have terrible grammar/misspellings

Things you WANT to do in your About Me section:

• Be Diverse
• List a variety of music, movies, and hobby interests.
• Be goofy. Listmovies like The Little Mermaid, and music by artists like the Spice Girls. Show her you are not a tool.
• When writing it is better to be brief yet have variety and keep her guessing, than to write your
  whole life story and bore her.
• You can even leave out your interests, giving her more reason to search for a connection with you. Going back to the characteristics women screen for, you want to be an enigma she wants to figure out.

Be Creative

In your About Me section, be creative. Don’t say “I’m new to this whole MySpace/Facebook thing” or “all my friends are on here so I figured I would create an account.” Talk about things like, “I love meeting new people” or “I surround myself with positive, fun, spontaneous, and outrageous people.” It doesn’t have to be long. Again, we need just enough to intrigue her, but not so much as to bore her. Make her curious to find out more about you.

Use Disqualifying Statements

Create a small list of disqualifiers. A disqualifier is any statement that demonstrates you have standards by declaring that the recipient is unqualified or ineligible for you. Having standards indicates abundance and a strong sense of identity. You know what you want and you have enough options so that if a girl does not match up, you can let her go. Here are a few examples of disqualifying statements:

Rules for being my MySpace/Facebook friend:

• No liars (unless you are flirting)
• No flaky people
• No granny panties! (unless you are actually a grandma )
• No psycho stalker chicks! I don’t care how hot you think you are!
• No BORING PEOPLE … You must be fun

Another option is to put up a qualifying statement on your page. Here is one that we have used and has been very effective placed under the Who I’d Like to Meet section on MySpace or the About Me section on Facebook: “If you are cute rather than hot, clever rather than cool, petite rather than slim, then I would like to meet you.” You must show that you have standards. Women like men who know what they want. If you do not know what you want, now is the time to sit down and figure it out.

A PICTURE IS WORTH A THOUSAND WORDS

The pictures you choose to use on your profile are vitally important. In most cases, these will be a woman’s first impression of you. Why not make it as good as possible? The following are some guidelines to follow when choosing what pictures to use:

Use a variety

You want to have pictures depicting you doing a variety of different activities. You don’t want to have twelve pictures of you drinking beer with your buddies. It is as if each picture is showing off a different side of your personality. As we have already learned, women like a man with some depth to him. They want a man with a sense of mystery, a challenge to figure out. Your pictures can make her curi-ous, and that is one of the most important first steps to attracting a woman online.

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