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The Community had an opportunity to be something really special. At one point, it really seemed to stand for something. It was about guys coming together for the good of everyone involved. It was about exchanging ideas, sharing adventures, and was a means of support for many guys going through some rough times…
It doesn’t seem to be that anymore. And quite frankly I don’t like where it is headed.
It seems nowadays everyone is only looking out for themselves.
You don’t have to surf too many sites to find a blogger instigating a “dog fight” between rivaling gurus, a dating “expert” bad mouthing one of his competitors for the sake of selling more products, and lawsuits and company politics getting more attention than what was supposed to really matter.
Wasn’t personal development the reason the community existed?
I am not casting blame on anyone for what the community is currently going through. No one is completely innocent…
And there are still a lot of great guys involved in it. It just seems we all need to put the focus back on what
is important.
I will go on record right now and say:
TSB Magazine is about bringing the community back to what it stands for.
This means the only articles you will find on this site are self improvement articles, dating and relationship adventures, funny videos, and some pictures of hot chicks to motivate and inspire us.
We plan on continuing with articles that will make us better men. This means a focus on creating the well-rounded individual, rather than the pick-up machine.
Real men live healthy balanced lives. Real men are physically healthy, emotionally and spiritually healthy, financially healthy, and sexually healthy.
TSB is about being better guys! Period.
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August 4, 2008
Please do..the community has been heading downhill for sometime. it needs a revamp
-KillSwitch
August 4, 2008
Amen to that Bobby. I read other sites like Eseduce.com, Rooshv.com and a few others every now and then, but TSBMag is my “Ace-Boon”. You guys consistent rock-solid information that is helpful and insightful. Also, you keep it real and you break things down into a way where they are easy to comprehend. I will go on record and say that it was hilarious when you guys had Ross Jeffries on the show, when he would go into left field and you all were kinda like WTF… I guess when people discover they have found something that can help others and they are able to turn a profit from it, they instantly see $$$ and the $$$ blot out everything else around them.
August 4, 2008
I agree with the writer of the article. However (and I know this doesn’t make me very popular by writing it, but there is a right of free speech) guys like mystery IN MY OPINION are screwing things up by acting like they are rockstars. How in who’s name must I as a normal guy relate to him.
David D or Gambler are realy normal guys to who I can relate to. They are normal and are good with women. Being good with women has nothing to do with being a clown or a complete a..hole to normal guys by acting Alpha. Come on.
August 4, 2008
Agreed, there is definitely a lot of mudslinging going on lately, and there should be more focus on simply improving. Unfortunately, I think that this is a natural part of the growth of a market. It probably will never be the same as the early days, but that’s not to say it can’t be better. I’m with ya.
Matt Savages last blog post..What Nice Guys Need to Know
August 4, 2008
i second that emotion.. i think you just had a JERRY MAGUIRE moment. now all you need to do is create the TSB Magazine mission statement and include everything in this article. you could call it simply INSTRUCTIONS ( life and how to live it ) . i am thankful to you guys for this website. the articles i read here have allowed me to build confidence in myself and empowered me with the skills to attract and talk to women i find beautiful. i come back again and again whenever i need inspiration and motivation.
who cares what the other guys in the community are doing. their actions speak for them.
August 4, 2008
My big problem is the fear for our customers…
Because when everyone keeps saying that “this doesn’t work, but THIS does”… people tend to get in analysis paralysis.
The fact is, ALL of it works… some people resonate with different teachers. HELL, I had college professors that I loved… but other people HATED…
It’s really the customers… the people looking for the right information… that really suffer… because they end up reading all of this conflicting info… then try to put it all together haphazardly… and FAIL miserably in the process.
So, as a general statement, even though mudslinging and controversy WORK… do they really have the best wishes of our customers in mind.
Naturally, if you don’t care about your customers’ well being… please disregard the above statement…
Brads last blog post..Perfect Body Formula Gets More Love…
August 5, 2008
Amen to that.
For me the community is about self-development and learning to more effectively build connections and interactions with women. Becoming more socially savvy, and generally working to becomes the best I can be just as I do in the gym to get physical results and as I do in YOGA to find spirituality and mental peace.
I, too, then hope that a lot of these gurus would stop thinking just in their own self-interest and badmouthing/bashing others to try to out-sell each other and all this hateful political bullshit, but then again, I don’t really care. Cuz I IGNORE all that $hit anyway.
I see a lot of stuff written about Mr. X beefing with Guru Y and Mr. Z not liking what grandpa M said on different sites when I browse, but since I never have and never will care about inside politics of this stuff and consider it a waste of time, I just quickly avoid all that shit and go to the next article or whatever.
Therefore, can’t say, I really care or get much harm from some of these people wasting their time and others belittling each other instead of being supportive, caring and loving, since it doesn’t really affect me and I block all that negativity and crap out best I can… but yeh.. overall it’d be nice to see community’s overall big atmosphere get more friendly over the years rather than a dog-eat-dog world… somehow I don’t see that happening though. But whatever… won’t bother me.
I’m just gonna continue to learn a little from many different people whose advice I consider worthwhile (and thankfully, there ARE also people like that in community, so it’s not all bad) and everyday try to become a better version of who I already am which I’m proud of.
August 5, 2008
Amen to that. One of the main reasons I feel that this thing is force for good in the world is that it’s a community, not just a market-sector.
August 5, 2008
Amen to this article. Bobby, your site consistently is the most grounded to the point of ALL of the community websites. I read a number of them and both you and Mike truly have your hearts in the right places.
The biggest problem I see in the community is follow-up and lack of professionalism. I have taken bootcamps, consultations,ect and NOT ONCE was there a followup beyond wanting to sell me additional product. NOT ONCE and I have dealt with a number of the top groups in the community. A guy can spend a couple of grand on a program and there is NO FOLLOW…if the community truly cared about the customers and their development, then they would follow through. In addition, what some of the top gurus are asking for consultations is outrageous for the common Joe. I recently contacted a top guru to see if he would do a 1 on 1. I was quoted a few thousand a day for two days minimum plus expenses. What this does is exclude the average AFC to where it only includes people in top income brackets. The result? Taking the community out of the reach of the guys that it originally was supposed to help. Its this focus off the basic goals that makes me frustrated with what was supposed to be a tool to help a fellow man in need.
August 13, 2008
Couldn’t agree more with the article. The biggest problem is that because there is money to be made in the community, a shit ton of people have tried to get into it for that reason, and the quality of the material they put out is quite frankly shit.
You can say whatever you want about Mystery’s style or pursuit of fame, but how many people have contributed as much to the community? I was on the whole “Mystery hasn’t put out anything new in forever” bandwagon, but then I read his new book.
There are a-lot of brilliant minds in this space and a-lot of brilliant marketers who don’t add any value for anyone but themselves.
I feel as though a good first step for the community to take to begin the healing is to root out guys who are only in it for themselves and let the open exchange of brilliance that once dominated this space to peek back out from behind the iron curtains of different companies.
But then again, I could be wrong.
Cheers,
Nick
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