6. 共感 -人々を理解されて感じさせる偽りなくそれらの言うことがわかるように努力は強力である。 皆は理解されたいと思う。 人々は世界でだけではないことを知りたいと思う。 もう一人の人の言うことがわかるために手を差し伸べることができれば直ちにそれらが付いている大きい関係を形作る。 次の時間誰かは長い議論を有することができること重い何かを言うその代りちょうど「私は言う試み理解する」。 それを高揚することがいかにで他の人々を感じさせることができるか驚かせられる。

7. 印象づけることを試みない -幾分堪能な人々は皆に作った業積について知ってほしい。 実際にすばらしい人々はしたものをについてはるかに控え目、控えめである。 最も印象的な人々は決して積極的に人々に印象づけることを試みない。 結果は彼が印象的ではないこと印象づけることを試みている人が伝達し合うことである。

8. 賞賛および感謝の提示 あなたがもう一人の人で、許可したそれらを好む何でもことを-見る時はいつでも 知りなさい。 If people aren’t used to you opening up, praising, and appreciating constantly, you might get a funny reaction at first. Once you’ve established that you’re constantly on the lookout for great things in others, people get used to feeling empowered around you. When you do mention something you really like, keep it casual. No big deal, no long talk. Just, “Hey, I really appreciate that you did that.” “I thought that was
really cool how you did that.”

9. Never criticizing, ever, for any reason - Likable people never criticize others. People universally hate criticism, and hate people that criticize them. Likable people always start off with genuine praise and appreciation before trying to give constructive feedback, and will only give this feedback rarely (because likable people understand that praise is a much better way to help people change than even constructive feedback, and criticizing is almost always useless).

10. Not trying to fix other peoples’ problems - When someone tells you they have a problem, but doesn’t explicitly ask for your help, that means they do not want you to tell them how to solve it. They want to feel understood, cared about, and empowered. Over 90% of the time, people know the solutions to their own problems. If someone brings a minor problem to you, try listening, nodding, letting them know you understand, and you’re with them. Tell them you believe in them and you think they’ll sort it out. If they ask what you’d do, maybe make a quick suggestion but don’t drive the point really hard. As crazy as it sounds, most people do not tell others about their problems in order to get solutions; they want understanding, empathy, and reassurance. People are very strong and quite good at solving their own problems when believed in.

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