6. 同情 -使人感觉了解和努力真实地明白他们是强有力的。 大家想要被了解。 人们想要知道他们不是单独的在世界上。 如果您能提供援助明白另一个人，您立即将形成与他们的巨大连接。 下次某人告诉您重的事您可能有一次长的讨论，反而尝试认为“我了解”。 您将惊奇在怎样提高它可能使其他人感觉。

7. 不设法铭记 -有些他们取得了的成功的人民要大家知道关于成就。 真正地惊人的人民是更多谦逊和低调关于什么他们做了。 最印象深刻的人民从未活跃地设法打动人。 结果是一个人设法铭记沟通他不是印象深刻的。

8. 显示称赞和欣赏 -，每当您看见您在另一个人喜欢的任何，让他们 知道。 If people aren’t used to you opening up, praising, and appreciating constantly, you might get a funny reaction at first. Once you’ve established that you’re constantly on the lookout for great things in others, people get used to feeling empowered around you. When you do mention something you really like, keep it casual. No big deal, no long talk. Just, “Hey, I really appreciate that you did that.” “I thought that was
really cool how you did that.”

9. Never criticizing, ever, for any reason - Likable people never criticize others. People universally hate criticism, and hate people that criticize them. Likable people always start off with genuine praise and appreciation before trying to give constructive feedback, and will only give this feedback rarely (because likable people understand that praise is a much better way to help people change than even constructive feedback, and criticizing is almost always useless).

10. Not trying to fix other peoples’ problems - When someone tells you they have a problem, but doesn’t explicitly ask for your help, that means they do not want you to tell them how to solve it. They want to feel understood, cared about, and empowered. Over 90% of the time, people know the solutions to their own problems. If someone brings a minor problem to you, try listening, nodding, letting them know you understand, and you’re with them. Tell them you believe in them and you think they’ll sort it out. If they ask what you’d do, maybe make a quick suggestion but don’t drive the point really hard. As crazy as it sounds, most people do not tell others about their problems in order to get solutions; they want understanding, empathy, and reassurance. People are very strong and quite good at solving their own problems when believed in.

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