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11. 否定性を除去しなさい -決してあなたが好まない何でも述べる。 特にあなたの直接制御の外の文化広い事で決してある: 従って、大衆文化政府について不平を言わなくて、あなたが考える方法はあなたが合わない愚かな、行動主義者のグループ、およびそうとである。 肯定的実際によいであることは。 述べていない
things you dislike is even more important.
12. Never complain - When people complain, others feel slightly less inclined to be around them. It brings people down. If you don’t like something, you have two choices: Take action to fix it, or accept that it’s there. When you realize that, there’s no reason
to complain.
13. Never impose weakness on others - Everyone feels down from time to time. The most charismatic people never “impose” that down feeling on others; instead, they’re a fort of strength for people around them. The more you stay composed, and refrain from showing being phased or flustered, the more you gain control over your life. People start to respect you more, and they feel they can rely on you.
You probably already do a lot of those - for a bonus, pick a couple more and start implementing. You’ll see quick improvements right away, and long term improvements down the line.
Thanks for reading stud, and go get ‘em,
Sebastian
Master the Vibe
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August 25, 2008
Good list, I hadn’t read that before. Wanted to add my two cents on a couple of items:
1. Smiling: I’ve spent HOURS working on smiling, to the point where I spent time taking pictures of myself with various smiles. Seriously. A photogenic smile felt super awkward the first several zillion times I did it, so I never did it in real life, but now my smile looks nice and photographs well. If you make this one change it’ll go a long way. I can usually get people to open up to me based on this alone.
2. Same deal with eye contact, I went through a stretch working on alpha eye contact and was surprised by the results. I’m better at communicating strength and sexiness with focused eye contact.
3. Imposing weakness. This one is huge! This is the biggest difference between my AFC friends and my pimp friends. My pimp friends always exude positivity and “bring each other up,” while the AFC’s bag on each other and unconstructively point out the negative. No matter who you’re hanging out with, bring the positive and make people feel good.
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August 26, 2008
Although you don’t want to “force” your opinion on others… giving a GOOD tip is awesome as well….
… something “underground” that no one knows… that they can get results from.
Even if they didn’t ask for it (but it has to be good).
Too many people are always on the “take”
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August 26, 2008
Always be positive? So much for that “negging” we were all nursed up on…
August 26, 2008
Aaron, do a websearch on ‘Mutual Value Escalation’ by Seb. I don’t have any links on the topic.
August 27, 2008
Aaron says: ‘Always be positive? So much for that “negging” we were all nursed up on…’
If you’re downbeat and negative in your general vibe and you neg someone it may well fall a bit flat.
But if you make the same neg and you are positive and upbeat in your vibe it will come across more like playful teasing.
Girls like it.
Here’s why:
The other day my friend Mark negged me (AMOGging me) but because he’s a positive guy and I really like him it actually made me feel re-affirmed as his friend - and he is safe in the knowledge that he can bust my balls and we can laugh about it (and I can do that to him, too).
By negging a girl while projecting a *positive* vibe the same thing is happening - you’re being ‘familiar’ with her like you would with a friend. Its this ‘being familiar’ vibe that makes the girl actually feel comfortable with you but at the same time want to chase you, because she subconsiously feels like you are sub-communicating that she is in your ‘friend zone’, like my *actual friend* Mark did, with me.
Hope that makes some kind of sense …