Ik heb om het even wat niet door Sebastian Drake in enkele ogenblikken gepost. Hij is altijd geweest één van het meest neer om echte bussen daar aan te aarden… en ik dacht dat deze lijst die hij van likeable characterstics heeft gestuurd de moeite waard was delend met iedereen.
Als u de kerels geen Sebastian in actie… hebben gehoord Ik adviseer hoogst controlerend zijn audioreeks Beheers Vibe. Ik schreef a overzicht van de reeks enkele ogenblikken geleden, en zoals de meesten van u. het weten. i“ m een grote ventilator.
13 kenmerken van Likeable Mensen door Sebastian Drake
1. Het glimlachen - De mensen die bij zeker, en gelukkig gemak zijn, neigen te glimlachen, en die glimlach zet mensen bij
gemak. Het glimlachen toont aan dat u pleased bent om iemand te zien wat werkelijk kan vleien.
Als u één ding wilt veranderen om over socialer te komen, glimlach een grote glimlach. Sometimes you will not feel in the mood to smile -however, if you choose to smile anyway you’ll still get the great results.
2. Eye contact - Maintaining eye contact when you talk to someone draws them deep into conversation with you - the rest of the world slows down, and you both become quite important to each other. It shows a calm confidence in what they are saying and it makes them even more engaging, almost hypnotic. A quick tip: Right eye to right eye. Look from your right eye to the right eye of the person you’re talking to. This strikes a great balance between good eye contact and not staring.
3. Touch - You’ll consistently see magnetic people reach out and touch others. Touching shows emotion and affection and brings you closer to other people. Humans crave physical contact with others, and more emotion and affection can be expressed through touch than any number of words ever could. Next time someone does or says something you really like, give them a high five, some “pound”, a playful punch on the arm or a big hug.
4. Not talking about yourself - Likable people typically are more curious to get to know other people and don’t talk about themselves as much. Likable people are always looking to find out more about the other person, what they are doing, and what interests them the most. Most people don’t feel heard - likable people know this, and encourage others to talk about what they really enjoy.
5. Not talking too much - Closely related to the above point.Likable people and high status people do not talk too much. Instead they encourage others to talk and to open up. People love to talk about their experiences and cool things they’ve done - when you become more curious and encourage them to speak more, they’ll actually like you more. If you catch yourself rambling for a while, an easy way to adjust is to say, “But that’s enough about me - what about you?”
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August 25, 2008
Good list, I hadn’t read that before. Wanted to add my two cents on a couple of items:
1. Smiling: I’ve spent HOURS working on smiling, to the point where I spent time taking pictures of myself with various smiles. Seriously. A photogenic smile felt super awkward the first several zillion times I did it, so I never did it in real life, but now my smile looks nice and photographs well. If you make this one change it’ll go a long way. I can usually get people to open up to me based on this alone.
2. Same deal with eye contact, I went through a stretch working on alpha eye contact and was surprised by the results. I’m better at communicating strength and sexiness with focused eye contact.
3. Imposing weakness. This one is huge! This is the biggest difference between my AFC friends and my pimp friends. My pimp friends always exude positivity and “bring each other up,” while the AFC’s bag on each other and unconstructively point out the negative. No matter who you’re hanging out with, bring the positive and make people feel good.
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