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I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. I've recently compiled a book with over 177 free PUA Openers...It took me awhile to put this collection together. Also, I just released another free report on small talk called Small Talk Tactics.

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If you’ve spent any time at all trying to learn how to get better with women you’ve probably read advice on overcoming approach anxiety, using openers, be cocky and funny, tell stories, pass shit tests, and an entire checklist of do’s and don’ts in regards to dealing with women.

All of this is great advice.  But last month, while doing a podcast titled “The Factors Keeping Men from Success with Women”  with Mack Tight, we stumbled onto an entirely new problem many men face, that is most likely holding them back from meeting more women.

And this problem is hardly ever talked about.

The problem that most men face is that they don’t know how to talk to, interact with, or make friends with other men.  More particularly they don’t know how to act around the “cool” alpha males who the ladies naturally like.

Now it’s taken me the past month of tossing this idea around my mind, reflecting on past observations, and really paying close attention to the interactions are around me, and what I’ve come to realize is that most men could drastically get better results with women simply by learning how to interact better with other men.

Let’s face it, part of the reason men have difficulty attracting a beautiful woman is because of deep seated self esteem issues that most likely stem from a feeling of not being accepted, or being “different.”

Many of these same men spend years avoiding social gathering all together.  These men rarely interact with any guys outside of their small circle of “comfortable” friends.  Most of the time these “comfortable” friends are just as inexperienced and lacking in social intuition.

Because of this these men never learn valuable skills in dealing with other men.

Some of the most important skills for dealing with other men include:

• Being able to quickly befriend other males
• Taking on the role of the leader
• Having the ability to make other men laugh
• The capability to hold a conversation
• Gaining the respect of those around you
• Having the sense to read situations
• Learning appropriate responses to different scenarios
• Getting other men to think you’re “cool”

As I was tossing this idea around my mind and paying close attention to the interactions around me I discovered that there is an extremely close correlation with the ability to befriend alpha males and the ability to attract a beautiful woman.

I noticed this first hand at the weekly Salsa lessons that I attend.  The lessons each week are filled with over 30 people.  It is about half men and half women.  What I noticed that was interesting was that certain men- who had previously never met- quickly became friends with other men.  And other men either only interacted with the one or two friends they came with, or simply made very little social conversation with those around them.

Now I found myself in a group with three other guys who quickly got to chatting about local bars, sports, Salsa, and a variety of other topics.  What I found even more interesting was last week there was an “open” class where students can bring a guest for free.  Out of the four guys that had made friends, three of us brought really attractive girlfriends to the event.  The other friend of ours quickly befriended one of the sexiest girls there and has been hanging out with her since.

This night confirmed my suspicion that men who are able to befriend and interact with other cool men, are much more likely to find themselves involved with beautiful women.

I think that there are a variety of reasons for this…

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