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I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. I've recently compiled a book with over 177 free PUA Openers...It took me awhile to put this collection together. Also, I just released another free report called Small Talk Tactics.

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Part 1

Let’s face it; talking to a beautiful woman does not come easily to too many of us.  In fact, so much of our energy and anxiety is deplored just gathering up the courage to approach her, that by the time the conversation begins we’re burnt out and can’t think of a damn thing to say.

Holding a fun and flirtatious conversation with a woman does not need to be difficult.  But I can tell you right now, that if you start talking to a woman, and quickly find yourself asking her a lot of questions about her job, school, if she has pets, or any other type of questions that even vaguely resemble stuff that would be on a job application- you’re dead in the water.

So I’ve put together a list of nine ways to make sure that you’re having conversations filled with fun and banter- and ultimately escalate you toward your goal of sleeping with her.

9 Skills for Better Conversations With Women (1-3)

1.  Avoid asking too many questions…  instead make statements

After breaking the ice with a woman, most guys will immediately start bombarding her with questions.  These questions usually tend to be boring “get to know you” questions… you know, the same sort of questions your aunt will ask you at a family party.

Asking too many questions not only bores her, but it will also prevent her from actually engaging in the conversation.  What usually happens is men will jump from question to question, without ever having the sense to expand upon a topic you can tell she loves to talk about.

Try this instead:

Any time you are talking to a woman and you ask her a question… follow up her answer with a statement rather than simply moving on to the next question.  This not only shows that you are listening to her, but also shows that you can connect at a different level.  And will usually open up the conversation to move toward more fun or intimate topics.

You:  So do you have any pets?

Her:  Yea, I actually have three of the cutest cats in the world.

You:  Mmm…. So you are one of those women with cats, huh?  (sly smile)

Her:  Stop it.. haha… no I’m not one of those crazy cat women… I just love my cats.

You:  They say people who like cats tend to me more independent than dog lovers….

As you can see, just by following up the question with a statement, you are able to expand on the topic and bring a little fun and banter to the conversation.

2.  Qualify her

Once a man senses any sort of rapport with a woman, he immediately becomes scared shitless of breaking that rapport or saying anything that will damage his chances of moving forward.  So he stays on “safe” topics. Unfortunately, this tends to work counter-productive… and usually winds up boring a woman that was previously interested.

Try this instead:

Once you sense that you’ve sparked a woman’s interest a little bit begin qualifying her with questions or statements that place you in the role of “the selector.”

This means you will make a statement that may disqualify her as potential lover…

Let’s use the cat example from above to demonstrate:

You:  So do you have any pets?

Her:  Yea, I have three of the cutest cats in the world.

You:  mmmm… We would never get along.  I’m a dog person, and what I’ve heard is that dog and cat owners tend to have a really intense sexual connection… but disagree on every other possible point.

As you can see, you took a “safe” topic like pets and were able to bring an element of sexuality to the conversation.  Not only that, but by making the statement “we would never get along” you’re now placing the burden of approval seeking on her.

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