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In my recent post titled “How to Avoid the 7 Biggest First Date Mistakes” I mentioned several times that the location of a date plays a huge part in how much fun the both of you have.
Dinner dates simply do not lend themselves to fun.
Here are the main problems with taking a girl to dinner early on in your relationship with her:
- It is expensive
- It is too formal
- It puts a lot of pressure on the two of you to carry a conversation
- You’re seated across from your date making physical interaction impossible
- It sets high expectations for further dates
- It doesn’t lend itself to “situational” humor or fun
- Once you’re done eating things tend to get awkward
- It’s hard to booze her up when she is eating
- You’re liable to spill guacamole on your shirt and look like a chump all night
- I can go on… or do you get the point?
So after bashing dinner dates in my previous posts, I sat down and began to think of some of the better dates I have been on. I decided to put together a list of dates that were a hell of a lot more fun than taking a girl to Cheesecake Factory.
DATE #1: Local International street festivals or fairs
There are a lot of reasons these street fairs make for great dates. These festivals are outside and usually there is a bit of a fun vibe surrounding them. The large crowd makes it necessary to stay close to the girl, and gives plenty of opportunities to initiate some touching.
It is usually much easier to keep a fun, flirtatious conversation going at this sort of date because the environment lends itself to a lot of topics. You can talk about the various “weirdo’s” walking around. You can ask her about her favorite foods, travels, childhood memories…
These sorts of festivals are usually advertised in your local newspaper. Here in New Jersey we have Italian festivals, Greek festivals, Brazilian festivals, Portuguese festivals… Each one of them provides a great opportunity for a date.
DATE #2: Museum
I resisted the museum date for years. I always thought it seemed too “intellectual” and could never bring myself to ask a girl to accompany me there. Big mistake.
A couple years ago, at the suggestion of a friend, I took a girl to the Museum of Natural history in New York. It turned out to be one of the most fun dates I had ever been on (and surprisingly involved no liquor)
The museum date is so fun because you’re constantly changing rooms. Each room in a museum is an entirely different theme, which gives the impression that the two of you have had several dates in one. The paintings, artifacts, and displays also give you a ton of topics to keep the conversation light and fun.
But best of all… there are plenty of dark little “secret” rooms that you can pull her into for a spontaneous make out session. (Click here to Read the Rest)


















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All awesome dates, but it amazes me how often guys overlook the simple & obvious. Where do you want your date to end? If you’re anything like me, you want it to end in your bed!
So I like to have the date at my place. Any excuse works for me. I will tell her to come over to smoke hookah, to play rock band, to sit in the hot-tub or any other reason I can concoct.
When things heat up, like the so often do, I’m a few steps away from my bedroom…and that is where I want things to end anyway. I do this kind of “date” about 90% of the time and most women seem to be more than happy to do something so simple.
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Excellent points on why dinner dates are usually not a very good idea for a first date. Another reason they should be avoided like the plague is that they scream ‘nice guy’ and we all know where they usually finish.
Before I realized that taking girls on dates was actually counter productive to getting laid, a comedy club and then a nice, cozy lounge always did the trick for me.
It is very, very hard to screw up that kind of first date. If for some reason there’s no chemistry by the end of the comedy show you just end the date there otherwise, you head to an upscale, cozy lounge without telling her where you’re going of course.
Confidently and smoothly surprise her with a kiss within one minute of being at the lounge (before you order drinks), keep the interaction very sensual, end the date before she expects you to and you’ll be able to close the deal on date number 2 when you invite her over.
Once you figure it out, it’s like taking candy from a baby.