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How to know when to go for the kiss
We’ve all been there.
We’ve had a perfectly nice time with a woman. We sensed some sort of connection, but for some strange reason the date has ended and we’ve totally blown it with this kiss.
Going for the kiss with a woman… and how you go about making your move, says more about you than anything that could have come out of your mouth the entire night.
A woman will ALWAYS be reading between the lines as she is out with you. And certain characteristics of a man are revealed by his attempt to kiss her.
What a woman can learn:
- Are you the dominant leader type?
- Are you shy and timid?
- How experienced are you?
- How much social intuition do you have?
- Do you understand women?
- Are you scared of women?
These are just some of the things a woman will learn instantly about you the minute you go for the kiss. Unfortunately most men completely blow it by making one of a variety of common mistakes.
Although it is not impossible to recover from making one of these mistakes. The impression you will leave on a woman will be much more favorable if you avoid them.
The 7 Biggest Mistakes Men Make Going for the Kiss
1. Going for the kiss too soon
Although I would always advise a guy to go for the kiss too soon than too late (she will respect you more) it is often a defeating behavior.
Most women already have a set time table in their mind how long they need to hang out with a guy before they will kiss him. And often times even though a woman has the desire to kiss a man early on in the interaction, she will resist his attempt simply because it wasn’t congruent with the timetable she already established.
Women will establish these time tables to avoid looking like a slut to the man, his friends, or even to herself. So even if you are feeling an incredible urge to kiss her, you must be conscious as to where she is emotionally in the interaction.
2. Retracting after an initial rejection
As I’ve just mentioned, often a woman will want to kiss a man… but won’t simply because she doesn’t feel it is quite time yet. And often these women will turn their cheek or push a guy away as he goes for the kiss.
Most men retreat like little boys at this point. They get so upset at the rejection that they spend the rest of the night sulking and never bother to attempt to kiss the woman again.
This leaves the woman extremely disappointed. And it also exposes you for a man who is so insecure with himself that he can’t handle the smallest obstacle.
If you truly sense a connection with a woman, and she is sending you the signals… don’t let a small rejection stop you from attempting to kiss her again.
Just the mere act of attempting to kiss her again after a rejection makes you appear dominant, confident, aggressive, and quite different from all the other guys who would have crept away with their tale between their legs.
3. Not touching her before going for the kiss
A woman generally needs to have some anticipation building for the kiss. In fact, I would say that for a woman the build up and anticipation is almost better than the physical act.
And most guys skip this altogether. And this irks women. And sometimes it irks them enough that they won’t kiss a guy simply because he didn’t have the skills to do it right.
The best way to build up to a kiss and let her know that its coming… is to begin touching her more and more. Touching can begin with lightly touching her elbows as you talk to her, putting your hand on her back when you lean in, or holding her hand as you guide her through a room… BUT it needs to begin.
Once you sense that a woman is completely comfortable with you touching her… you can be pretty sure that she is ready to be kissed.
4. Asking her if its alright to kiss her
Yes, way too many men feel like they need the woman’s permission to kiss her. Usually these men will wait for a completely inappropriate time and announce to the woman that they “really want to kiss her.”
This is NOT what a woman wants.
Yes, a woman wants to know its coming… but not with words. She wants to know its coming because you’ve started touching her more, or you looking at her a little bit longer, or you’ve slowed down your speech.
When you ask a woman for permission to kiss her your GIVING HER THE POWER. Women, even in today’s day and age, want a man who commands the power. (Read More)
Bobby, I’m gonna be honest with you here, most of this article I’ve heard already. But before you dismiss this as me having a go, let me tell you something.
This article just sets out all you need to know in a common-sense, logical kinda way. Its made some things that I was sort of aware of crystal clear to me, and I don’t doubt it’ll be what’s running through my head next time I’m contemplating the kiss, its stuff that most guys just don’t get.
I know this is a pretty successful site now, but I think it still has to mean something if you get some decent positive feedback on what you’ve done, and this is it. Keep writing this sort of stuff, its worth its metaphorical weight in gold, mate.
Adam
I was reading until I came across a fatal grammar mistake,,,
“These men are usually the scared, timid, insecure type, who believe their is something “wrong” with kissing a woman.”
Their is something wrong?
Their is?
Their?
THERE!!
GODAMNIT”
Bobby,
Spot on article! It’s all about helping those that truly need some pointers when it comes to love life.
I could surely identify the need after watching so many fail and seeing the heartbreak on their faces. I to am committed to helping those who seek a better way with their love life and getting the girl!
Keep on with these great articles!
“Stratocasterman”