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Snagging the digits of babes is a deceptively glorious feat. While it testifies to the strength of your game, there’s no guarantee of any future romance. It’s what happens after getting the number when the men separate from the boys, the players from the herbs.
While it’s highly recommended you play it safe and navigate her number to a date via text (thus creating more “great moments in text message history”), sometimes that’s just not an option. Maybe she’s old fashioned. Maybe she can’t write and, subsequently, maybe she’s 5-years-old. Regardless, once in a blue moon a situation will present itself where you have to sack up and actually make a phone call.
I think it’s safe to assume we all know how not to follow up on a number. Just think of that cringe-worthy Swingers scene where Mikey pathetically professes his neediness and insecurities to the answering machine of a girl he just met. Yet how many of us have also ruined great interactions because we were clueless on how to work a phone number?
Well, don’t let Alexander Graham Bell cock block you ever again. Despite the advent of cell phones, phone game basics remain the same. And with some hot tips, you’ll be converting those digits into hot dates.
ASAP
The “3-day rule” is a myth. The longer you wait to call, the longer she has to forget the reasons she gave you her number in the first place. Follow up either the day you met her, or the next day. The idea is to get her on the phone while she’s still buzzing from the initial interaction. This way she’s more inclined to answer your future calls, or return your voicemails. Not only does it get her comfortable taking your calls, but it also alleviates you of days of needless pressure worrying about “what to say.”
Hit the ground running
Everyone fears awkward phone silences – especially during the first call. After exchanging pleasantries, don’t let the conversation go stale by being unprepared. Have a story or social commentary ready to carry the conversation for the first minute or so. I’m not suggesting you deliver a Shakespearean soliloquy, but a quick and punchy anecdote will grease the wheels of good conversation. Get her relaxed and she’ll be more inclined to share (read: babble), allowing you to kick back and listen.
On your time
The best time to call is when you’re out-and-about. While it may seem counter-intuitive, the less focused you are on the call the better. As opposed to sitting in front of the phone and fretting over the outcome, calling while you’re on the run keeps the conversation light, spontaneous, and fun. Additionally, it shows you lead a busy, interesting life devoid of neediness.
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Good article. I never really bought the “3 day rule”. Most women tend to forget you after 3 days and by then their interest will have dipped so low, getting a date out of it will be really slim. Just imagine how many guys she will have met in that time especially if she’s really hot.