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Should you start taking Viagra or Cialis if you can’t get an erection? The answer is yes, if you want to drain your wallet and create a drug dependency which will require you to take a pill EVERY TIME you want to have a decent sexual performance. Seriously, I could go on a rant for about an hour about how Viagra and Cialis … but instead, I’ll keep it to this:
95% of the Viagra and Cialis prescribed is sold to people who DON’T NEED IT. I mean, if you’re over 60 and you have a legitimate medical problem, then I think Viagra is great. But I know lots of guys in their forties, thirties, and even TWENTIES who are already popping these pills. These guys have no medical problem and are using drugs to cover up a PSYCHOLOGICAL problem.
Viagra is so seductive because it is literally a magic pill. All you have to do is pop it and BAM! All your erection problems instantly go away. The problem is, this creates a psychological dependency which makes it even HARDER for you to get it up without a pill. So you have to keep buying more and more. And this is why the pharmaceutical companies are obscene profits on these drugs, at your expense.
A TEST TO SEE IF YOU HAVE A PSYCHOLOGICAL OR MEDICAL PROBLEM
Can you get an erection while masturbating but have problems getting one with a woman? If so, you have a psychological problem.
A much better solution for you is going to be to learn a few techniques to overcome this. Then your erection issues solve themselves naturally. And it’s actually very easy to do, once you know to avoid …
THE BIG MISTAKE GUYS MAKE WHEN TRYING TO GET IT UP
I used to struggle with erection issues myself. Whenever it would happen I would mentally say “Damn it, I need to turn myself on more so I can get it up!” So I would fantasize about porn which had aroused me in the past, or think about how hard I was going to fuck the girl once I did get it up. I would also start jerking off frantically using the logic of “Hey, I can get an erection when I’m masturbating, so it should work now too!”
And if you’ve ever tried something like this before, then you know that:
TRYING TO MAKE YOURSELF “MORE AROUSED” ONLY MAKES YOU MORE IMPOTENT!
It sucked. All my frantic jerking off and fantasizing was for nothing, and I STILL couldn’t get it up. Until one day, I realized that AROUSAL WASN’T THE PROBLEM!
I mean, I could get an erection by myself just by imagining things or watching some cheesy porn clip. But with a live, naked girl in my bed I was already about a HUNDRED TIMES more aroused than that. So what was different with the girl which was preventing me from getting an erection?
I realized the one thing which was missing was:
At this point, I would become very tense in bed without every realizing it. And as research studies have shown many times, a male human cannot get an erection if he has physical tension in his body, or if he feels even a tiny bit nervous or tense mentally.
So then, I shifted my focus to trying to RELAX more during sex. When I couldn’t get an erection, I had a three word mantra I would repeat to myself:
“Relaxation over arousal.”
This would remind me not to try to get myself more aroused and excited when I couldn’t get it up, and to focus on just relaxing and being completely comfortable. I wouldn’t do ANYTHING to try and make myself more aroused, and I would just focus on relaxing my mind and body.
This caused me to stop frantically fantasizing and jerking off, which I realized were only making the problem worse. Instead, I would just take it slow and focus on how good the sensations of her body felt. I wouldn’t think about anything and I would totally clear my mind. And I would either stimulation myself slowly or have her give me a gentle blowjob. And this worked like MAGIC for me.
“Relaxation Over Arousal” COMPLETELY cured me of all erection issues. No pills required.
The next time you can’t get it up when the time is right in bed, try just focusing on being more relaxed. Let arousal take care of itself, and just clear your mind and become 100% comfortable with the experience. But I know you’re probably thinking…
EASIER SAID THAN DONE!
I realize that achieving a state of total mental stillness and physical relaxation isn’t just as simple as deciding to be relaxed. Now, just shifting your focus to “relaxation over arousal” will help you out A LOT. But if you really want to have absolute control over your erection so you can be rock-hard anytime you want, there are some specific techniques that you should learn.