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I’m writing this from my bed, on a laptop. The whole room still reeks of sex…hopefully that will inspire me to write a great article for you today. But here’s why I wanted to shoot your this email right NOW: I just realized that now, I do all the techniques in the Sex God Method without even thinking about it. Because I’ve studied it so extensively, being Dominant in bed comes natural to me.
But I remember that it wasn’t always like that. When I first starting using Dominance to turn women on, I always felt like I just “wasn’t that type of guy.” I didn’t see myself as the type of guy who talked dirty to women and who they could be intensely sexual with, so whenever I tried to turn her on with Dominance I would feel really nervous and anxious. I was smart enough to realize that Dominance DID turn women on … but for a long time, I couldn’t find the courage to actually DO it.
So here’s the deal:
EVERYONE feels some level of anxiety when they’re trying out these Dominance techniques for the first time. It’s not just you. I myself felt really nervous when I first started trying out this stuff.
And it’s critical that you have a definite PLAN to get over this “Dominance Anxiety.” Because if you don’t, then all your knowledge about Dominance will just be a bunch of theory which isn’t used. And in theoretical-land you might be able to give women orgasms with this, but in the REAL WORLD it will count for nothing.
I’m not in the theoretical knowledge business – I’m here to teach you exactly how to give women orgasms, actually for real. So here are three things that really helped me overcome my “Dominance Anxiety,” and which I think can help you as well:
Step #1: The Power of the Negative Thinking
One technique that I’ve found especially effective in overcoming “Dominance Anxiety” is to think NEGATIVE. Here’s what I mean by this:
As humans, it’s natural for our imaginations to run wild picturing our “nightmare scenarios” when we try something new. And especially in the bedroom, since our egos are so vulnerable, these imagined “nightmare scenarios” tend to be especially severe.
I can remember the first time I tried talking dirty to a woman, my heart was pounding with nervousness because of this. I kept imagining that I would say one dirty thing to her, and she would just sit bolt upright and say “No, I am NOT a slut! You’re a creepy weirdo! I’m outta here – bye!”
Of course this NEVER happens in reality, but I imagined it so vividly, and so many times, that it didn’t matter. It really affected my confidence, even though it was grossly paranoid. But then one day, I sat down and thought, “OK, so what if that really DID happen? Would I be OK?”
And when I really thought about it, I realized that I would be. Of course a sexual rejection like this would hurt, but I knew from past experience that I would survive and get back on the horse. And just like that, my “nightmare scenario” was reduced to a just a few days of feeling bad, which I’d been through before and I knew I could overcome again. And once I realized that’s all it was, INSTANTLY I became much more confident in using my Dominance techniques. Realizing that my “nightmare” really wasn’t all that bad, and that I would survive if it happened, robbed it of all it’s power. So if you’re experiencing Dominance Anxiety right now, here’s what I recommend that you do:
First, really allow your imagination to run wild to think of the WORST possible thing that could happen if you tried Dominance stuff in bed. Picture your nightmare scenario.
Then, think about how you would survive if your nightmare scenario actually happened. You’ve experienced some sort of rejection before, and you survived that…so even if your nightmare scenario did happen, it probably wouldn’t be as bad as you think.
Finally, think about how UNLIKELY your nightmare scenario actually is. I mean, have you ever even HEARD of anything like this happening to anyone? If you really think about it, you’ll realize that something this bad actually happening are extremely, extremely small.
And once you “think negative” like this, your nightmare scenario won’t cause you so much anxiety anymore. You’ll be able to relax and confidently pull use the Dominance techniques – and she’ll have more orgasms because of it.