That first kiss, a very daunting idea for sure. The sexual tension lingers there after spending some time with a hot babe rather it be on your first date, or even at a bar after only just meeting. I like to think of the first kiss as the key to unlocking her physical side. It’s that one action that gives you the confidence to shoot for the stars. But we’ve all experienced the moments leading up to the kiss, the turning of our stomachs, the looping thought processes of “oh no she might reject me!” It’s a thrill! And one of the most important quotes I’ve heard in my day is extremely relevant in regards to the first kiss. It’s this….
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
In other words, you have got the have the ability to saddle up and make the move! It’s very uncommon to find a girl that’ll be the one to make the first move. They will literally wait for you, probably even thinking in their heads, “JUST KISS ME ALREADY!” And if you end up not going for the kill it ends up making you come off as a man with no confidence.
Timing is everything. The awesome thing about this is, she will give you sign for when the time is right! And with the knowledge of this article, you’ll know exactly what to look out for. So lets start of with number one…
1. In Your Personal Space
She lingers in your personal space a little longer then usual. This one is huge. We humans as social creatures understand that some sort of personal space is needed in order to be comfortable. For the most part, unless it’s with someone who you are extremely close with, that personal space stays personal. It’s just weird for a random person to enter it, it freaks people out. But like I said, if this girl is into you and you’ve played your cards right she will literally enter your personal space multiple times within an interaction, linger there longer then usual, just waiting for you to make a move. Rather it be moving her face really close to yours to whisper something in your hear in a “loud” bar. You’ll feel the social tension, and you will know the time is now.
2. The Whisper Test
Now number two is more of a trick I use to test if it’s time, with awesome results. Here’s what I do, step by step. While talking to her at a party, in a movie, or out at a loud bar, I’ll do this. Grab the back of her neck gently, pull her face in close to yours, then slightly move your head to the left or right as if you were trying to whisper something in her ear. She will do one of two things, back her head up and open her eyes wide as if she didn’t want you to kiss her, or relax her eyes and pucker her lips just a little bit. It’s very subtle so keep your eyes peeled. If she does the second one, after you whisper something in her ear, give it a bit and go for the kiss when you’re comfortable doing so. You know she wants it, she puckered her lips!
This one is one of my favorites. At a bar, party, or club, the dance floor is usually full of people grinding up on each other. the sexual tension is through the roof. Perfect place to land the first kiss. Here’s what to do, while you dance with her, periodically turn her around to face you and gently place one of your knees in between her legs. Grab her hips, move with the beat, turn her around again, and repeat. After a while, turn her to face you, pull her hips in close, and look out for these signs. If she holds strong eye contact while dancing with you, that is a huge factor in determining if its time or not. Also, look at her lips. I know to go in for the kill when her lips are either slightly puckered, are slightly raised at the edges. Like a smile almost, but very subtle. In a nutshell, look out for very inviting body language, almost as if she was asking for a kiss by only using her body language. So many of my first kisses in relationships come from the dance floor, so take advantage of it!
So there you have it. With these three simple tricks in your arsenal, you have that boost of confidence necessary to jump of the edge! Don’t be that guy that misses out on a awesome possible relationship with someone you had a good connection with, just because of fear!
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