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3 Mistakes Making Your Move on a Girl
Many of my clients ask me about how to get physical with a woman, and I am always surprised by the various different ideas that guys have regarding physical escalation …
The truth is that getting physical with a woman is really a pretty straight forward thing… One of the biggest ways that guys screw this up is by trying to “get fancy” and do a bunch of stuff that is completely unnecessary.
So, to keep you on the right track here are 3 common mistakes guys make when they are getting physical with a woman that can bring things to a screeching halt:
1. Verbalizing your intentions
Get in there!
Often times guys want to “test the waters” by asking for permission before they make their move… So they end up saying something like, “I want to kiss you” or even worse asking, “is it okay if I kiss you?”… TERRIBLE! (read the other 7 mistakes going for the kiss)
Saying something like this is the surest way to make an interaction get really awkward and to kill any attraction that a woman might have for you. Not only does this peg you as an inexperienced guy who probably hasn’t kissed more then a couple women, but it also gives her a chance to verbally deny you… Which is never good.
If you are in a situation where you feel a woman might be open to making out then she probably is, and you are much better off just going for it (how to go for the kiss). Or better yet you can get a sense of whether she is ready by seeing how she reacts to other forms of touch like hand holding and hair-stroking.
2. Going Berserk On Her
If you haven’t been with a woman in a while, you are liable to get pretty excited when you find one who’s down with the program. But you need to be careful not to overdo it and try too move things forward too fast or you run the risk of coming across as a sex-starved maniac. Yes, Some women will be ready to meet your little friend just minutes after your first kiss, but in most cases you’ll need to warm them up more slowly.
In particular be sure not to slobber on her too much as first. If you start ramming you tongue down her throat and salivating all over her face that can cause problems. (here’s an article on how to kiss a girl).
3. Leaving Her Hanging
Many times a guy will make out with a girl a bit and then decide to “wait till next time” to close the deal. This might sound good in theory, but the problem is that once a woman is turned on and you make her horny, she expects the man to continue to move things forward and see things through. If you don’t at least try to get it in, she’ll be left wondering what went wrong, and there is an very good chance that you’ll never get another shot.
Instead just keep slowly and smoothly moving things along until you either finish what you started or she tells you that she’s not ready. This way she knows that when she decides to open up that you’ll be ready to make it happen.
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The first point isn’t always true. I remember I was on one date with this really cute girl. I was playing with her hair in the car and trying to smell her neck to set up a kiss, and she turned away, showing me she didn’t want to kiss. We were talking while this was happening and I said point-blank “I really want to kiss you right now”. I let the words linger and continued the conversation.
Bobby Rio always says state your intentions, and when I did, the entire outlook of the interaction changed, and I ended up kissing her later that night. The key for me is when you state your intentions, you can’t be approval seeking and you need to say it confidently and I think that will stop her from thinking you’re inexperienced. If the moment isn’t there, stating can cause sexual tension to create the moment later. Obviously if the moment to kiss is there, take it and nothing needs to be said, but on that day I had been to passive up to that point so finally manning up and telling her, then being unaffected by her negative reaction when she basically rejected me, amped up the attraction and allowed me to kiss her 10 minutes later.
Meanwhile, another guy says to leave her wanting more you fuckers need to have asummit and get your info in sync.
another friendzone story is upcoming.. i feel it..
Hmmm…ya those info’s work, bt I kw 1 thing as a bAd boy U cn say..Hehe:) that we dont hv 2 loose our cOnfidEnT!!! We hv 2 b sofT whr it shud b required wit some tActic$…..~ that’s it..
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McPhucklie’s comment cracked me up! If anything the bad grammar makes it better:
“Meanwhile, another guy says to leave her wanting more you fuckers”
Can I also add why should we always worry about what the woman wants and responds to? How about doing things that make the man happy? Isn’t it time we evolved a bit?
yeah… why has it always been about the desires of a woman? This is the virus that’s eating up the confidence of men. you have duty to be as happy as she would be. Happiness is contagious… so just know MAN, that bee will fly to the nectar. SO BE THE NECTAR.
Just do what feels good without anyone feeling uncomfortable, right?
its amazing
you are hot
Passive or aggresive or even passsive aggresive – why do all you people want to shove everyone in to your neat little friggan boxes. We do not all fit into those things. Just like the above, Not every woman will fit into your little mold. Grow the hell up and tell people the TRUTH, that we all all just f*cked up and figure this shit out on our own.
i have tasted alot women but i came up with conclusion that there is no formula. just be creative and tricky to read her and take a control of her. they dont have dicks, thats the only formula.
As a girl, I am telling you this is just nooot true.
Sure it has valid point like body language being important, not going to crazy, knowing what you want but….. It can be sweet being asked or told someone wants/is going to kiss you, though not a necessity; and I think it’s unfair that a girl can be allowed to “not be ready” but a guy isn’t- though make it explicitly clear that’s the reason, or a good whatever reason.
Yeah, 2nd point’s pretty standard. No slobber pl0x. That’s normally at any point but I guess it gets to a stage where you don’t even notice anymore. (‘:
As a girl, I’m gonna say that 1 and 2 aren’t always true. Maybe it’s just me but I wouldn’t mind two (if you know what I mean)
Use penegra tablets nd then fuck u all madarchods