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First of I want to start this article by mentioning that it is not about how to cheat on your current partner but more about the women you can cheat with, the women that will continue to have an affair with you even if you are married with children, etc.

It’s important to note that this article may not be moral and most certainly it should be regarded as entertainment more than anything else. I DO NOT recommend cheating on your partner (may it be wife or girlfriend) but if circumstances ask for it, this article should prove quite helpful.

Recently I’ve been asked this question a lot by people that are having trouble with their wives. Most of them argue the fact that they can’t have sex with their partners (for various reasons) and that, at least to their extent, justifies cheating.

Because men are genetically designed to “spread thy seed”, a wife that doesn’t put out, is NOT necessarily the only reason for cheating. Most men just want to have sex with many women and they feel this NEED deep within them. It’s something that is genetically embedded into our DNA and it can only be controlled by sheer will and determination.

I have never been forced into this situation mostly because I always made things clear from the beginning and have stepped into casual relationships that allowed me to have multiple sex partners at the same time. However, due to my work, I had the good fortune of meeting quite a few of these women (and men) throughout my life.

Why A Mistress?

Many might believe that any woman can be turned into a mistress. This is correct to a certain extent. A real mistress is the one that KNOWS you have a main relationship and KNOWS her place as a mistress in your life. If you’re sleeping with two women but none know about each other, that just means you’re playing two women at the same time.

Do it right

The beauty of the mistress is the fact that she actually ACCEPTS her situation and doesn’t demand much from you. This provides you with the opportunity to keep you current partner (the one that you supposedly love and maybe have kids with) while at the same time having the occasional sexual encounter with your other (and maybe younger) woman.

In a situation where you have wife and kids (or very demanding girlfriend) it’s very hard to sleep with random women constantly as this is a very time consuming process. This is why your best bet is to have a mistress. You only need to put the effort once and then, with minimal effort, you can go back to her whenever you want.

The Mistress Profile

The type of women that are good mistresses are career focused younger women (22-26) that want to be independent. Basically women that want to do everything by themselves and DON’T need a man to take care of them. This is what you need to look for and this is where you need to start. They usually hang out in dive bars and lounges for young professionals.

These women are also prone into falling for older men since they think everyone their age is immature. If you are her age you need to demonstrate outstanding maturity and NEVER offer to take care of her. In a way these women take on the “man” role so it’s absolutely paramount that you treat them as an exact equal.

They love talking about their work and are generally more knowledgeable than most women you meet. When asked about relationships they will often avoid the issue by saying I’m just having fun, not looking for anything serious etc. It’s important to note that this is not necessarily what they want but they use these lines to differentiate themselves from your regular “marry me” mentality girl (which they see as a weakness).

How To Get Her

I know a lot of girls that are mistresses and as mentioned above, your best bet here is to go for someone young (22-26) regardless of your age. At that age they think mostly about their careers and don’t realize what their getting into. If they are over 30 it will be increasingly difficult to keep them as a mistress or you might just find them getting pregnant because “they want a kid!”.

Picking up one of these women is not going to be difficult. If you can demonstrate outstanding maturity from the begging things will go fairly well. You need to show them that you are intelligent, maybe even more intelligent than them. See how they react and basically let them play themselves into your bed, while remaining cool and collected.

You will need to spend some extra time and money at the beginning but once things settle down you’ll be able to visit her just when you need it.

Also, the most important aspect is to MENTION your current relationship. There is no exact time when to tell her (before sex, after, after weeks etc). You need to judge that based on your conversations. If you are working with this women, she might already know or, you might use the “unhappiness” of you current relationship to sleep with her or, you can even tell her right after you had sex.  It all depends on your circumstances.

Test the waters and pick out the best time. This will not only make things easier for you later but it will also increase her desirability for you. As they might often make it their mission for you to leave your current partner (wife) – which you will never do, of course.

How To Keep Her

Mistresses are easy to keep as long as you somewhat make them believe that you will leave your wife/girlfriend. You will be surprised by how rare you can actually meet them due to your “partner” issues. I know mistresses that are now used to having sex just 1-2 a month. This is absolutely outstanding as you will soon find out that they will even become faithful without you even trying.

However, never expect the mistress to be faithful and never ask her for it. Tell her to be free and tell her to find a man that’s better for her as that will only make her want you more (and even be faithful).

To keep her happy make sure you keep things clear and TIGHT from the beginning. Tell her that your wife (girlfriend) comes first because of XYZ reasons (kids or just lie if you must). Don’t spend overly amounts of time with her and NEVER sleep at her place.

The occasional weekend away (once every 5 months or so) can do you wonders however make sure you have a good excuse for the other half.

There you have it, you now know how to get and keep a mistress.

Note: If you have a wife, try to sort things out with her first. Also, if you do decide to go down this route, NEVER leave your wife and never ADDMIT to anything if suspicion arises.  If you have a girlfriend and you’re young, I suggest leaving your girlfriend because if you feel the need to have a mistress now, the relationship is going to be nothing but a waste of time and it’s better to end it now before there are kids or divorce lawyers involved.

This is the sort of stuff I discuss on my blog and in the free eBook I give out. If you want to increase your success with women, visit http://ThePlayerGuide.com – a place where the dating mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct and fruitful methods of meeting and seducing women.

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