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Ahhh, happiness. The holy grail in this life of ours. Everyone is seeking it, but truthfully, not many people find it in this fast-paced clusterfuck of a world.
Much of the time, people are unhappy because they’ve fallen into certain ways of thinking that inevitably lead to feeling bad about themselves.
Avoiding negative habits of mind is crucial to reaching a place where you can be content with yourself. Here’s a list of 4 of the most common mental errors committed by unhappy people. Do your best to understand them and rise above them.
1. They live in the past.
They constantly dwell on mistakes they think they made or the way things could’ve turned out. They are filled with regret and wish they could go back.
Here’s the deal. What has happened has happened. You can’t change it. The sooner you accept what you’ve done and who you’ve been, the sooner you can forget that person and focus on becoming a better, happier you.
2. They let fear control their lives.
They’re too afraid to pursue the things that really make them come alive. So, they end up following paths that are encouraged by others or safe. This results in winding up in jobs they hate and relationships they despise.
If you really want to be happy, you’ve got to face your fears. You’ve got to listen to your heart and do what you know you need to do. Only then will you end up where you need to be.
3. They judge other people harshly.
Because of their own insecurities, they feel the need to talk badly about others and get angry when people live differently than them. They spend much of their time and energy worrying about people they don’t know than about themselves.
This is something our society teaches us to do, but it’s crucial to let go of it if you want to be happy with yourself. Accept that other people look, think, and live differently than you, and realize they have the right to do what they want to do just as you do. Focus on your own flaws, and try to correct them.
4. They’re all about temporary pleasures.
Fast food. Booze. Sex. TV. Gaming. Drugs. You name it. These people are looking for something quick to make them feel better. They go about their day feeling shitty and looking forward to the next mild amusement.
True happiness lies in creating systems of lasting joy. This involves finding rewarding work, mutually beneficial relationships, and hobbies you love. I’m also not saying you can never play video games or have a beer. But, remember as rule of thumb to take everything in moderation.
That about wraps it up…
Hopefully this list is a good starting point and can help you realize what you need to do to become a happier person. These, of course, are not the only 4 habits to correct. Many, many factors can play into our contentment.
The most important thing is to begin to recognize whether or not you feel good about yourself and your life. If you don’t, examine your regular practices and attitudes and consider changing something. Change is usually for the better. Best of luck, friends.