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The other day I got a very interesting and yet simple email from one of my readers.

“Hi Alex, I’ve been with this girl for over 6 months now and she’s admitted to having sex with girls in the past. I know this might sound like the ideal scenario but I can’t get her to have a threesome with me and another girl. Any tips? Cheers, Will”

This guy obviously saw the potential and now, wants to know how to actually get that girl to do a threesome.

My first instinct was to show him a recent article that I wrote 2 Easy Ways To Get A Threesome> but after re-reading that article again I noticed that I didn’t actually cover how to get your girlfriend to do a threesome but more how to get 2 bi-curios girls in bed with you, or how to use your bi-sexual girlfriend to pick up chicks for threesomes. So, here’s a deeper look on how this whole girlfriend thing works.

Before you pop the threesome question there are a few things you need to be very aware of:

•    You and her need to be very open minded. For example a religious girl will never be opened to something like this or, even if she may do it out of love for you, she’ll regret it and it will probably mark the end of your relationship. Also, be aware that some women will never be opened to threesomes just like some women can never be “friends with benefits” – this also makes girls that are ok with being friends with benefits, a more probable candidate for such a scenario.

•    You both need to understand what a threesome implies (her getting it on with another chick, you getting it on with another chick) and be OK with it. Believe it or not, some guys just can’t take the idea of their girlfriend being with another chick…the jealousy is overwhelming.  However, the real problem here isn’t you (since you’re reading this article) but her. If she’s the jealous type asking you where you’ve been, checking your phone and all that sort of drama, it’s not going to happen.

•    She should have a slight interest in women, or at least that spark of curiosity. I believe many women think about this throughout their lives but there are some women out there that are just disgusted by the idea.  A good way to make sure is to ask her if she ever did something while she was in college etc. If she’s over 23 and never tried a thing then she’s probably never going to try it. Finally, when I say “thing”, I’m not talking about making out with another chick in front of a bunch of people to get some extra attention; I’m talking about going under the sheets.

Get that threesome

If the above guidelines are met, there’s a potential threesome situation. Now, in order to actually get her to do a threesome there are 2 major factors that will influence your success.

How much she trusts you is directly proportional to her allowing you to ravish another woman

Considering that she is somewhat bi-curios and would be into sleeping with another girl, the biggest issue you have to deal with will be her insecurity regarding you and the other woman. You need to understand that even though she may not be the jealous type, she’s still worried, because it’s natural, that after you sleep with the other chick, you’re going to dump your girlfriend to be with the other one for whatever reasons (she’s hotter, sexier, better at sex etc).

The above is a prime example of how most women don’t understand men and how their perception on sex (is also emotional act) is totally different from ours (sex is just sex – hardly any emotions).

However, this problem quickly goes away the moment she realizes that although you’ve ravished the other chick in front of her, your love and commitment stays true.

It’s hard for me to explain how to build trust in a relationship as that’s totally dependent on your relationship but, I can inform you that the more secure and comfortable she is regarding your commitment to her, the more likely she is going to try out a threesome.

When I first did it with my ex, we were still in the early stages of the relationship and I used a “friends with benefits” as the first chick because my girlfriend knew that I had no intent on starting a serious relationship with this girl and that kept her at ease. Even with this, it was incredibly awkward when it happened and it stayed awkward for months.

Only time can cure such things and only in time can you gain your girlfriends complete trust. That’s why if she isn’t completely secure about your commitment (because you go out without her, talk to chicks on the internet w.e) it will be almost impossible for you to do the threesome. If this is the case, you need to regain her trust and make her feel 100% comfortable about your relationship as this is the ONLY way to assure her that you’re not going to run off with the other chick.

How good you are in bed is directly related to her willingness to try out a threesome

I’ve always said that being good in bed is incredibly important but in this scenario it’s PARAMOUNT.

To put it simply you need to be killing it. You need to make her experience things she’s never even heard of let alone felt before…you need to make her feel so good that she thinks about “what happened last night” all the time.

Women are very complex sexual beings – they go way beyond our primal desire to put it in. They think about stuff you can’t even imagine and that’s what you need to do. Get that stuff out of her mind and into the bedroom. This can be done by talking dirty, rocking at foreplay and basically giving her as many orgasms as possible. If you play this right you can try newer and kinkier things every time. It’s important that YOU help her explore her sexuality with YOU.

Remember, the key thing here is: she needs to explore her sexuality with you!

You can’t set up a threesome over night, but being the one that shows her this and that and more and more pleasure will inevitably result to “if he showed me all that pleasure, a threesome must mean even more pleasure”.

This effect is outstanding. My ex and I still keep in touch and she’s told me that she never had threesomes and can’t even picture having threesomes with the guys she’s dating today. This is mostly down to the fact that I was the one that allowed her to be sexually liberated and I was the one that never judged and was there when she wanted to try some new kinky stuff…thus making her feel comfortable so much that her insecurities went away.

Before you actually start to introduce the idea to her make sure you read my other article 2 Easy Ways To Get A Threesome as that’s where I teach how to bring up the topic during sex. The whole topic of a threesome needs to be seen as a further exploration of your sexuality and relationship together, not just a personal achievement for you.

The moment this becomes about YOU and your porn fantasy she will quickly disregard it. This is also why you should never try to logically convince her to have a threesome but instead you should create desire and fantasies to have another woman in bed and then, when the time is right, make that fantasy happen.

You need to understand that 2girls 1guy threesomes are ALL ABOUT THE GIRLS. You just have to get your girl as excited about it as you can and then, just put her into a position where this can happen.

This is the sort of stuff I discuss on my blog and in the free eBook I give out. If you want to increase your success with women, visithttp://ThePlayerGuide.com  – a place where the dating mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct and fruitful methods of meeting and seducing women.

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