What’s the right attitude for responding to a “shit test?”
How should you respond when a girl throws one at you?
This is a question I get a lot when I’m working with one of my private coaching clients.
“Should I appear angry?”
“Should I laugh it off”
Let me say this. Stop worrying about shit tests. And learn to LOVE THEM.
I love shit tests.
I LOVE THEM.
And here’s why you should to.
They are an easy opportunity to display VALUE.
Once you understand how to respond to them, its like a girl lobs a softball at you, and gives you the opportunity to knock it over the fence.
One of the 7 mindsets that all player’s share is something I call “being comfortable in the grey area.”
The grey area is when you’re not sure if she’s attracted to you.
And a “shit test” is a sure sign you’re in the grey area.
Its a signal that she’s not sure sure if she’s attracted to you either. You wants to know if you’re “for real.”
First let’s define a “shit test” again.
Its basically when a girl messes with you, accuses you of something, or subtly insults you.
“Aww, are you upset?!”
“You’re such a player aren’t you?!”
“I’m not going to sleep with you.”
“I have a boyfriend”
“Can we be – just friends?”
“Hold my bag for me!”
As you may have noticed from the repertoire of woman’s standard run-of-the-mill shit tests, they are incredibly fixated on discerning whether or not you are a beta (guy who doesn’t get laid much, if at all.)
Ok, so first let’s discuss how NOT to respond to a shit test.
How to FAIL a shit test 101: Let her see you stumble.
If you struggle to respond, go uncomfortably silent, get noticeably embarrassed or upset, or immediately try to defend yourself.
You have just failed the test.
So say you’re flirting with a girl at a party, and she looks at you and says “I’m not having sex with you.”
And you’re thrown back, don’t know what to say, and then finally, lamely say “We’re just talking, I’m not trying to have sex with you.”
Her attraction for you just went from maybe 7 to 4.
So how should you have responded?
There are a handful of ways to pass shit tests, but a very simple framework to remember that will help you pass almost any shit test is:
She says: “I’m not having sexy with you.”
You say: “Yea, totally not. We’ll just cuddle on the couch and watch Titanic.”
She says: “Are using using pickup lines on me?”
You say: “Yea and that was my most powerful one. Girls usually drop to the ground and start begging to be my girlfriend the minute I say it.”
She says: (when you ask for her number) “Sure, but can we be- just friend?”
You say: Sure, And you can listen to all my problems, give me rides to the airport, set me up with your friends.. even though you’re secretly in love with me and waiting for me to finally realize it.
Ok, when you respond in the ways above, a girl’s attraction for you might have been a 5 but then it jumped to a 7.
This is why being “comfortable in the grey area” is one of the most important mindsets to have.
Because instead of worrying about whether or not she’s attracted to you, you can just focus on continuing to move the needle towards attraction, one shit test at a time.
I’ll show you how instilling these 7 mindsets makes things like passing shit tests easy and enjoyable.