5 Red Flags That You’re a Bitch
Let’s face it: we can all be a bitch sometimes. We whine. We don’t want to face reality. We hide from the truth. No guy wakes up in the morning saying, “Man, I’m gonna act like a little bitch today!” Yet it happens. So, as the old saying goes,...
Getting Sexual: A Man’s Approach to Dating
I’ve been there; you’ve been there: You’re talking to some hot chick, and things appear to be going great. You’re having a nice, polite conversation. The words are flowing and the smiles are beaming. Yet a little part of you knows that you’re...
When You Graduate from The Game
The other day I was talking to Bobby Rio about the absurdity of “game” rules once you begin enjoying a modicum of success with women. Buying drinks. Paying for expensive dinners. Being “nice.” It all works once you know what the hell you’re...
Sometimes You Just Need A Time Out
You like her. You like a bit too much. You had your chance with her, but somehow, things didn’t go as planned. You fumbled the ball, and now you’re sitting on the sidelines, trying to figure out how to “make things right.” You desperately search...
Could Your Job Be Destroying Your Chances With Women?
After 3 months of employment at the publishing company, I’d forgotten her real name was Pam. She was, is, and will forever be “The Berlin Wall.” She fit the nickname like she’d been tailored for it. She was cruel, authoritative, stone cold, and—worst...
Are You A Loser? The 2 Rules For Turning Your Life Around
A good, honest question that often gets bad, dishonest answers is this: would you hang out with yourself? Most guys scoff at the idea of not enjoying their own company… …yet little do they realize that self-deception is often the glaring first sign...
The Day I Decided To Take Control Of My Dating Life
We all have our D-Days. Or our Bastille Days. Or whatever name you give to the day you stopped acting clueless around women. Probably, if you’re reading this article, you’ve had that day already. Take control! Maybe it was out of necessity: you’re...
Rob’s Lost Field Reports: Learning to Go Direct
Haha, I was looking through my old computer and stumbled on a treasure trove of field reports from 2006 to 2008. It was sort of cringe-worth to read myself referring to women as “HBs” and descrbing the outrageous outfits I’d wear out. Yet, at the...
Addictive Patterns: Lifestyle Overhaul
Patterns are addictive. Breaking the “cycle” of an addiction is just another way of saying breaking a harmful pattern. Most people assume such addictions are related to nicotine, alcohol, sex, or drugs. But we’re all addicts. Get out of your repetition We’re...
Polarizing is Attractive
The other day I received an “unsubscribe comment” from someone on my newsletter. A Hotmail user had unsubscribed from my newsletter, explaining, “I’m woman and much of this content is offensive.” Hmm. Speak your mind I don’t intentionally...
When You Have a Girl Back at Your Place
Getting a girl back to your place is the dating equivalent to getting the ball into the red zone in football. You’re knocking on heaven’s door: so close to the awesomenesss, yet nothing is guaranteed. You could still fumble here and lose it all. In...
How to Text a Girl
Of all the great advancements in 21st Century technology, nothing has help shift the battle of the sexes more than TEXTING. Unlike the old-fashioned “telephone call,” text affords men the opportunity to carefully calculate exactly what we want to...
Did Your Childhood Mess You Up With Women?
“Killing Me Softly” by the Fugees. That was the song that was playing in the background. I’ll never forget that. Ever. I was 12-years-old, overweight, and not cool. I had a surplus of acne but absolutely no confidence. And so, when I picked up the...
What to Say Next: The Post-Direct Moment
Direct Disappointment I know how you feel. You’ve been studying how to be direct with women. You promised yourself that the next gorgeous girl you see, you’re going to tell her that she’s cute, adorable, sexy, whatever comes to mind … Go get...
The 4 Types of Women You Should Avoid
Your time is your greatest asset to your dating life. For less experienced guys, who are struggling with keeping a conversation going, that may sound a bit ridiculous. But, ultimately, your time is what will allow you to meet more women, learn more about...
Friend or Cock-Block: Your Best Friend Holding You Back
I didn’t want to write this article. The last thing I want to do is make some well-intentioned Internet readers suspicious of their friends. Really, if there was another article I could have written this week, I would have. But I can’t. Friend or...
Action Plan for this Year
Have you ever met a guy who works his ass off, but never becomes very successful? Probably you also know someone who doesn’t work very hard, but always seems to get ahead. While some of that success can be attributed to “dumb luck,” there is something...
Get Selfish in 2012: Make this the Year of the You
Happy Birthday He couldn’t believe it. He stood in a cold TGI Friday’s parking lot as the realization sunk in: they weren’t coming. Not his friends, not the girl he was seeing—or he thought he was seeing, not even an acquaintance with nothing...
Emotions in Dating: Revisited
Becoming fluent in dating means learning to speak in emotions. It doesn’t matter if you’re staring at a cell phone screen or at a beautiful girl across a bar, if you want to capture her attention, you must captivate her emotions. Use your feelings Most...
Running Schooled Me in Women
It felt like finally surfacing for a breath of air after being held underwater. My legs wobbled—so full of lactic acid and fatigue they could hardly support my 145-pound frame. Doubled over, I desperately sucked the crispy autumn air into my body. I...
_20120308170342.png)