Learning to Create Attraction and Seduce Women
Learning to Create Attraction and Seduce WomenÂ
Here is a Derek Vitalio article about the whole idea of the process of learning the art of seduction and
attraction. Its funny cause I sometimes wonder what a girl would think if she found out I have
a web site dedicated to teaching seduction advice. But then I figure. Who cares!
You shouldnâ€™t be embarrassed about the skills youâ€™re using â€“ unless youâ€™re using them irresponsibly. Like all tools, the techniques in my books can be applied for good or bad purposes. Take the guilt test â€“ if you pass, then you donâ€™t need to worry about being dishonest or disingenuous.
You remember in The Empire Strikes Back when Luke has gotta takeoff to help his buddies, but Yoda is all against it, because he isnâ€™t ready to deal with the temptations?
Well, thatâ€™s you. Kinda.
I bet there also was a time when you made the observation that assholes got women, and although you wanted women as bad as the next guy, you werenâ€™t willing to become an asshole to do it.
And I bet youâ€™ve had a doubt or two while reading my materials along the same lines.
Questions Are Good
Thatâ€™s cool. In fact, thatâ€™s good. You want to remain active, questioning, open. I donâ€™t want my students just blindly taking what I say for gospel, but instead trying it all out and seeing what works for them.
That means you have to question whatâ€™s happening â€“ both so you can refine and customize for yourself (which weâ€™ll talk about later at greater length), and also so you can be open to recognizing whatâ€™s REALLY going on. Because as much as I might explain it, some things will only make sense when you try them. And then only when youâ€™re actively thinking about it and being critical.
So what am I saying? Well, this is an extension of comments Iâ€™ve made earlier â€“ and I could have easily opened with this, but I wanted to wait until youâ€™d seen some of what is in my books is really about before asking you to think too deeply about it.
Because what Iâ€™ve given you here is a number of theories â€“ good ones, ones that work in the real world, not just the psych study ward â€“ and different applications or those theories in practical ways.
In short, Iâ€™ve given you some powerful tools.
And, like all tools, these things can be used for both good and evil (pardon the hyperbole).
The Wrong Way
Look, there definitely are guys out there who want to know a bunch of lines, a bunch of routines and techniques, and are basically looking to use them to â€œtrickâ€ girls into feeling something. You can take what I teach you here to do that sort of thing if thatâ€™s what you want â€“ just as you can take a sushi knife and use it to extract livers and sell them on the black market.
Thatâ€™s not what this is about, though.
The Right Way
You shouldnâ€™t be trying to trick women. It might work and you might have plenty of sex â€“ but itâ€™s not going to bring you any closer to a real connection with a woman. And if thatâ€™s what youâ€™re after â€“ and I think that, deep down, thatâ€™s what most men want, in one form or another â€“ than you need a different tact.
You need honesty.
Iâ€™m not saying you need to reveal your deepest fears and obsessions to every girl you like â€“ in fact, Iâ€™ve said the opposite often enough that the thought shouldnâ€™t even occur to you.
What I am saying, though, is that you shouldnâ€™t be looking at these techniques as a dishonest attempt to repaint yourself in new colors.
Donâ€™t LIE â€“ just be yourselfâ€¦ MORESO
What weâ€™re trying to do here â€“ cue the violins and brass section â€“ is do a better job PRESENTING yourself. Not lying about who you are, not being false in any way, but just COMMUNICATING in a more POWERFUL and ATTRACTIVE way.
Get the difference? Itâ€™s a little subtle, so let me give you a good way to test yourself.
If a girl found one of my books printed out on your bookshelf and asked you about it, how would you feel?
A little exposed? Hey, thatâ€™d be alright. A little sheepish? No worries.
A little like you need to get the girl out of there and never see her again before she digs too deep into your dark dark underworld?
Now youâ€™ve got problems.
If youâ€™re Comfortable, youâ€™re using it right
The thing is, you shouldnâ€™t be embarrassed about this sort of thing. If a girl sees one of my books, you shouldnâ€™t need to cover anything up. You should be able to feel free talking about it, maybe even sharing it (in the case of guys wanting to have a number of primaries and/or secondaries).
Now, Iâ€™m not saying you should bring her home and say â€œWanna see something cool?â€ And it also doesnâ€™t mean you should say â€œYes, I got this book to help me with women, because I need help with women and I like women so I got a book to help me with women. I like them. I like you.â€ Ugh. DEFINITELY donâ€™t say that.
But if a woman finds one of my books, you should feel cool saying something like â€œYeah, thatâ€™s a book about attraction. Here, tell me what you think of this: it says that women donâ€™t like wimpy little yes men, but prefer a guy whoâ€™ll speak his mind and not kiss up to her. What do you think of that?â€
You can actually end up getting some REALLY interesting responses, and your matter-of-fact relaxed confidence â€“ and LACK of anything like GUILT â€“ will be a major turn-on.
Of course, itâ€™s better to stick with generalities instead of â€œYou know when I was taking your picture? In the book.â€ That sort of exactness doesnâ€™t usually play well.
But if youâ€™re comfortable with the concepts in my books and newsletters and donâ€™t have a problem talking about them, then youâ€™re probably using this thing the right way.
If you haven’t done so already, take a look at Seduction Science. All four volumes work synergistically to start turning you into the kind of man that women desire. Check them out.
About MikeStoute Michael Stoute here, and at your service. I am a writer/editor/lover and a fighter. My words are weapons of wisdom so watch out, you may learn something...or better yet, maybe you can teach me something! Have a question? Please try to leave it in the comments, it will get a faster response than an email. Otherwise, Email Me