31 Days to Better Game (day 1) Designing Your Life
This is the first post of our new series 31 Days to Better Game. Over the next 31 days I will be posting a new lesson each day… Many different bloggers and coaches have submitted articles for this series… And I’m quite confident that if you follow this series from start to finish implementing what you’ve learned… you will see results.
Designing Your Life
The first step you need to take to improve any area of your life is determining your desired outcome. The title of this series is 31 Days to Better Game… but “better game” has a different meaning for everyone reading this. In order to fully experience and appreciate the lessons you’ll receive over the next 31 days you need to have a clearly defined end result.
Having a clearly defined end result means knowing exactly where you want to be 31 days from now. How will you look after you’ve achieved better game? How will you act? What kind of girls will you be dating? Sleeping with? What will a day in your life look like once you’ve got this area of your life mastered? How will you feel? What kind of thoughts will be running through your mind?
These are all questions that you can not ignore. This step is more important than any lesson you will learn from here on out.
If you have had difficulty with talking to women, managing a relationship, building attraction.. or any other area of your life… until you develop a clearly defined goal for yourself your mind will continue producing the same results you’ve always gotten.
These three books all explore the ancient principle that your mind will create whatever reality you present it. This means that if you consistently think of the lack in your life (of women, money, friendship) the universe will continue to provide you a life of lack. But if you train your mind to see abundance (of women, money) the universe will provide you a life of abundance.
If this sounds new age and hokey… wait a minute. I felt the same way years ago when I was presented with this concept. But I’m going to safely say that it is magic.
I want all of you reading this to put aside your personal opinions and judgments and reservations. I want you to trust me and give this a chance.
Everyone reading this needs to set aside one hour in a quiet place. Take a pen and paper with you. You need to close your eyes and spend the next thirty minutes visualizing yourself as your Ideal Self. Imagine clearly what you will look like, feel like, and act like once you’ve mastered this area of your life.
As you run this image through your mind, pay attention to the way you walk, the way your voice sounds, the thoughts running through your mind, visualize yourself in the company of the woman you want to be with. Clearly imagine the women and note the way you interact with them.
Do girls leave you confused as to whether or not they like you?
Let's face it. Girl's don't make it easy for you. She will often send mixed signals leaving you unable to tell if she is being friendly or flirty. If you read her signals wrong you risk rejection and embarrassment. Or worse, you blow it with a girl who wanted to kiss you.
Here is a simple and innocent move that will instantly tell you if you're in the friend zone, or if she's waiting for you to kiss her.
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About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.