The 12 Secrets of Getting Into State

The Secrets of Getting into State

Remember the phrase “I am state.”

State is already a part of you. It is already within you. But it will not always come out. Sometimes it lie dormant for months. Sometimes it will last for days.

I have found several secrets of activating the state more often. I would like to share them with you right now. These are the ways I have found most effective for activating “state” in regards to picking up women.

1. Get Excited

It is easiest when you are truly excited about the place you are going. But no matter where you are headed, search your mind for every conceivable reason why you are going to have the best night of your life. Pump yourself up. Think of the limitless possibilities that every night offers. Who will you meet? Where will you wind up? What stories will you have to tell tomorrow?

2. Do a Social Pre Game

When most people think of pre-gaming they think of pounding down beers so they can show up at the venue with a buzz. This is not what I am talking about here. What I am suggesting is that you get social way before you head out to a bar or club.

Don’t take a nap right before you leave to go out. Don’t sit on the computer until you’re ready to head out. Begin socializing long before you get to the bar. Meet your friends an hour or so early and get in a talkative, social mood. If there is no one around, then call a friend on the phone that who you know will jump start your social energy.

3. Positive People

At some point you will come to the realization that certain people do more harm than good. These people you must eliminate from your life, or seriously limit their influence over you.

Instead, surround yourself with the people you find yourself most often in state around. If you pay attention, you will notice that certain people trigger “state” in you more than others. These are the people you want to be around.

4. Dress to Impress

I am talking about impressing yourself. If you’re wearing clothes you don’t feel comfortable in, or are conscious of the fact that you haven’t shaved, or smell bad, you will find it near impossible to get into state.

How you present yourself, is a direct reflection of the state you are feeling. If you leave the house well dressed, your physical image will be in congruence with your mental image of yourself. This makes getting into state much easier.

5. Anchor Music

It is possible to anchor certain feelings to particular songs. You’ve probably already experienced this. Are there certain songs that remind you of an ex girlfriend? A certain period of your life?

You can manipulate this to work to your benefit.

I have a play list of songs that I almost always play as I am running on the treadmill at the gym. As my heart rate increases as I run, I turn the music louder and louder. I continue this cycle, until my adrenaline is at a peak. At that point, I am running on air. And music is pumping through my veins.

I’ve found that I am able to reactivate that adrenaline rush simply by playing that same play list on my way to a bar or club. While I’m playing the song in my car, I also need to move physically to activate the natural endorphins.

6. Exercise

As I stated in the previous example, exercise is a great way to get into state. You will find that the more active you are, the more energetic you will be.

Exercise releases those natural enorphins I mentioned. Have you ever heard of “the runner’s high?”

With exercise, it is best to start a routine. You will notice the results after about a month of continuous, strenuous, training.

7. Nutrition

Their is an entire book called “Enter The Zone” written about the role food plays in getting you into “state.”

Even on a simple basis, you can drastically see how nutrition effects state. Have you ever tried to go out and game after eating Chinese food? Or a Whopper? It is near impossible to get into state with that bloated, greasy feeling.

Everyone’s body is different. Start paying attention to which foods stimulate state most often. And pay attention to which foods leave you lethargic and unmotivated. Adjust your diet accordingly.

8. Drop All Game Talk

Once you get to a bar or club, you must never NEVER spend your time talking about elements of game. You will never be able to get into state if you’re using terminology and pickup lingo. These are not topics that lend themselves to friendly conversations.

Your goal is to be having fun and being social. If you’re talking game, you’re not being social. Period. Drop the game talk the minute you leave for the venue.

9. Get Goofy

Yes goofy. Being goofy puts you in a good mood. It also causes you to have some fun. This will help put you into state.

An example from my life:

My friends and I love to imitate Vince Vaughn’s annoying laugh. Some nights when we get to the bar, we’ll walk up to random girls and bust into Vince’s laugh. The girls will look at us like we’re crazy, but it puts us in such a good mood.

It also becomes a competition between us, we’ll try to out due each other. This gets us all social. And eliminates our approach anxiety.

10. Get Social Quickly

Even if acting goofy is not your thing, you must immediately do something that is both fun and social. Interact with people immediately. Get your juices flowing. Get the endorphins pumping. Get comfortable being social.

The tone of the night is usually set pretty quickly. That is why it is essential to create the right vibe for the night immediately.

11. Don’t Wait for Your Wingman’s Permission to Approach

I actually learned this solid piece of advice listening to Moxie’s interview on State. I think this advice is brilliant, as I know I’ve been guilty of this in the past.

When you see a girl you want to talk to, do not talk about it with your wing. There is no reason to say “I want to talk to that girl”

Just do it. He will follow. And if he doesn’t, go in alone. Once you start talking about the girl you want to talk to, you take your self out of the moment. This will break state.

12. Stay Out of Your Head

The best way to get into state is to live in the moment. Stay out of your head. Don’t think about the past. Don’t think about the future. Look around and make every effort to make this moment as enjoyable as possible.

Remember, look around and immediately make every effort to make this moment as enjoyable as possible.

I hope this helps.

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About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences.  For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.

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