The Instinct That Makes You A Sex God
What separates a Sex God from a chump?
Sexual skills, of course. But there is also something else…something more intangible. I call this intangible X Factor the “Orgasm Instinct,” and in this post I’m going to explain exactly what it is. And, I’ll show you how you can get it.
I originally learned about this instinct from one of the most accomplished, respected Brazilian jiu-jitsu black belts in the world. He was giving a seminar at my gym and he said one thing particular that really stuck with me. He said “when a submission hold is locked in, many people will not finish the submission because they don’t go 100% with the technique. They’re not fully conscious that this is their opportunity to finish the fight, so they don’t put everything they have into the submission.”
“They lack “killer instinct,” he said. “And because they lack this killer instinct – and they don’t put all the juice they have into a sunk submission – all their TECHNIQUES are really for nothing.”
This was a BIG a-ha moment for me – both in jiu-jitsu, and in the bedroom. Because I realized that his wisdom had important sexual applications as well.
WHAT THE “ORGASM INSTINCT” IS
Many times before, I realized, I’d had my girlfriend REALLY CLOSE to having an orgasm. She’d be moaning and bucking in that way she did JUST before she came. But sometimes, even when I got her to that stage, she didn’t have an orgasm. This was because I lacked the “orgasm instinct” in the bedroom – I didn’t put 100% of everything I had into making her orgasm at that moment.
If I was stimulating her with my fingers, sometimes my fingers would get tired. The same thing with my tongue when I was giving her oral sex. Sometimes when we were having intercourse I would change positions, reasoning “I’ll change it up here to make things EVEN BETTER.” Or I would otherwise get creative at this critical moment and disrupt the flow of pleasure for her. Sometimes she would have orgasms despite this – but sometimes not.
So I committed to developing the “orgasm instinct” in bed. After that, whenever I sensed she was about to have an orgasm, I told myself that I was going to make her climax NO MATTER WHAT. I wasn’t going to mix it up or get creative – I was just going keep doing the same exact thing I was doing until she came. If my fingers or tongue got really tired, so fucking what! I was going to keep going until she had an orgasm, or I was physically unable to move the body part anymore.
And it WORKED. I started giving my girlfriend orgasms MUCH more consistently. And I noticed that in the excitement of the moment – once I’d committed to putting 100% of what I had into making her finish – I really didn’t even notice the tiredness.
Of course, afterwords, my muscles would feel INTENSELY fatigued, but it was actually a good feeling. It was very satisfying to bask in the afterglow, knowing that I’d given her everything I had to drive her over the edge.
HOW TO DEVELOP THE “ORGASM INSTINCT”
To develop the “orgasm instinct,” the most important thing to know the signs that she’s about to have an orgasm. Because once you know these signs, then you’ll be able to know 100% for sure that she’s actually just about to have an orgasm. This will give you the confidence that is necessary to put everything you have into driving her over the edge.
There are 7 different “universal” signs that almost every woman will give when she’s about to have an orgasm.
In addition to knowing these, you should also develop sensitivity to your specific girl’s unique orgasm signs. Pay close attention to what happens to her body just before she orgasms. When it happens again, then you’ll know that you have your window of opportunity. Then once you’ve seen the signs, and you KNOW that she’s about to orgasm, tell yourself “I am going to drive her over the edge NO MATTER WHAT.”
Keep doing the thing you were doing, and don’t let up until the end. It doesn’t matter if you get tired. It doesn’t matter if she takes a little longer to finish than you expected. And it definitely doesn’t matter if YOU get the urge to switch things up, because at this moment she just wants you to keep going. This “orgasm instinct” will drive her over the edge, and make your techniques many times more effective. You might be a little tired afterwords, but really, who gives a fuck? You’ll have given her an intense screaming orgasm, and you’ll feel like an absolute Sex God afterwords.
About Daniel Rose Daniel Rose is the author of the Sex God Method. He teaches men simple yet powerful ways to give women sexual pleasure through using her "Four Orgasm Triggers." Once you know what these are, and how to use each one, giving her an orgasm becomes as easy as flipping a switch or pressing a button.