The Dating Paradox
“If you train one hour a day, two years from now you will master this art.” said the master. “And how long will it take me if I train 8 hours a day?” asked the mentoree, ”If you train 8 hours a day, it will take you 5 years. With one eye so focused on your goal, you have but one eye left to watch where you’re stepping…”
The law of reverse effect says the harder you try to make something happen the less likely you are to succeed. In the dating world, it is well accepted that trying too hard or coming off as needy won’t get you anywhere.
But isn’t it paradoxical that we put so much time and effort in order not to look like were trying hard? Learning all kinds methods and techniques from the approach to the kiss close to SEEM natural…
Now why is it no matter how much you read on the topic of dating and attraction, sometimes you struggle and sometimes everything seems to kick in effortlessly? Perhaps it’s because were in an environment where we feel comfortable, we feel good about ourselves, we’re completely relaxed and have no hidden agenda when we talk to people and more particularly women. We’re simply having fun.
You’ll agree that being comfortable, feeling good about ourselves and especially not having a hidden agenda is pretty F*****G hard to fake…
Which brings me to my next point:
You can either fake it or make it real. The truth is, faking it is waaay more complicated than it seems and making it real will bring results not only regarding women but in every single aspect of your life. The goal behind faking it is to come off as a high quality man, a guy worth dating, a guy who’s going somewhere.
Seriously, why on earth would you we to FAKE these qualities !?
Right now, I suggest you let all that sink in your mind. Pay attention to the way you live your life, the things you do and how you treat yourself in general.
Then look out for Part 2, I’ll list many different tips and ways, I experimented with personally and brought deep and dramatic changes in my life.
About Olly G. Obsessive about understanding how people think and why they do what they do, Olivier started studying psychology and human relations in general. He believes writing is a beautiful way to synthesise information in order to get a deeper understanding of things and share it with others.