The 3 Worst Relationships Mistakes I Ever Made
If every mistake is a learning experience, than I’ve learned a hell of a lot from my various relationships over the years. Yes, I’ve made plenty of blunders and I’m here to share three of my worst screw-ups so that you can avoid them yourself.
Perhaps my worst f*&kup, I had a girlfriend get drunk once and bang my buddy…okay, he was my roommate also. I forgave her and stayed in the relationship. Ugh, so dumb. I did it because she was hot and the sex was outstanding. Has this ever happened to you, fellas? It was a terrible terrible situation because it meant I comprised my values and stayed with someone whose character wasn’t good enough for what I was looking for. It also meant I wasn’t as strong of a person as I should have been because I settled for crap.
The relationship deteriorated over the ensuing months, with her heinous act eating away at us like a cancer. I also lost my friendship with my homeboy, obviously, but he got what he deserved for being a doosh. The bottom line is, if she sleeps with your buddy, CUT THE CORD IMMEDIATELY. There is no fixing it.
I had one relationship where we were awesome friends and the companionship was excellent. Simply put, I couldn’t find anything wrong with us. Except the sex was mediocre, and that also ate away us like a cancer. I had to dump her and let me tell you, it was a rough breakup. No chick wants to hear they’re lousy in the sack and that’s why she’s getting dumped.
The moral of the story is, sex matters in a relationship. Don’t fool yourself. There has to be physical chemistry as well as emotional and intellectual chemistry. If it’s not there, you’ve got nothing.
This has probably happened to every guy, but I ended up “winning” a girlfriend when it was a buddy and me who were fighting over her. It screwed up my relationship with my buddy for a long time. You could argue all’s fair in love and war, and you could also argue that it’s not worth fighting over a chick if you’re going to lose a buddy. I tend to agree with the latter. There are plenty of amazing women out there…let your buddy have the chick. It’s good karma to give rather than take. You’ll be rewarded in the end.
As a bonus, I will also admit I’ve tried to force a relationship to happen when we were socially incompatible with each other. What I’m talking asbout here is a chick that was rich and came from this crazy, wealthy family. With my humble roots, let’s just say we had no long term future and I didn’t recognize it back then. That Romeo and Juliet crap doesn’t work in real life. These days I factor in the social chemistry as well as the companionship and sexual chemistry.
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About Lance Lance is a tech geek by day, social artist and fitness enthusiast by night. He specializes in relationships in real life situations, such as workplace and in business, and his goal is to create high value social circles filled with opportunity. For more on his dating and relationship perspective, check out his blog honeyandlance.com