Is She Playing Hard to Get or Just Not Interested?
It can be hard to tell the difference between playing hard to get, and not being interested. They appear almost the same, because they’re meant to. If she’s playing hard to get, the idea is to leave you confused and intrigued. But it could be disastrous if you think she’s just teasing you, but she really doesn’t like you.
Sometimes there is no way of telling. You would have to spend more time with her to find out if she’s interested or not. But usually, there will be a few key differences in the signals she’s giving you that will tell you if she wants you to chase her.
You may think that because she is friendly enough when she sees you, she must like you. But unless you know her very well, you’re in no position to make that judgment. It could just be her personality to be friendly to everyone, even while rebuffing their advances. The signals you have to look out for are much more subtle than mere friendliness.
A bit of light banter makes all the difference. If she’s being mean to you but in a playful way, she could well be interested in you. Equally, it could just be her personality. Watch how she interacts with other guys- if she seems different with you, she’s probably interested.
Just when you’ve given up on her and assumed she’s not into you, she shoots you a random text. Why? Because she wants you! She doesn’t want to actively pursue you, but once she starts to worry that you’re losing interest, she’ll get back in contact. Take this as a sign to contact her more frequently. Try the rule of two thirds. For example, she takes six days to get in touch with you, next time you initiate contact, wait for four days. This way, you won’t lose touch, but you won’t come off as desperate either.
Drunk words betray the sober mind. If she’s calling or texting you while she’s been drinking, it’s because she wants to talk to you more often but doesn’t want to come across as too keen. Take it as a good sign. The absence of drunk texts isn’t a bad sign however- maybe she doesn’t drink to excess, or has exceptionally good control of her phone while intoxicated.
If you notice she’s been dressing flashier, doing her hair and packing on makeup while she’s around you, it could be that she wants to impress you. It could also be that she wants to impress one of your friends, if you meet up in a group. If you notice her doing typical grooming behaviors such as fixing her hair and reapplying lip gloss when she’s talking to you, she’s trying to attract your interest. She may act aloof, but putting in the effort to look good means she wants someone to notice her, and that someone might be you.
About Natasha Abrahams Natasha Abrahams is a writer and journalism student from Melbourne, Australia. When she is not busy with being a principal writer on Weekendnotes or skipping lectures, she can be found emptying her wallet at the nearest shopping centre. You can read more from Natasha at: http://mensstyleandfashion.com/