When She Thinks You’re a Creep
Your best efforts to woo a particular lady are to no avail, because she thinks you’re a creep. Every time you talk to her, you’re reinforcing her idea that you’re a weirdo with girls. Perhaps you’re not being as smooth as you think- what you think to be good flirting could actually be creeping her out.
You think you’re being seductive by trying to exchange glances with her across the room. She thinks you’re staring at her. If your eyes are boring into her every time she looks at you, she’s bound to think you’re a tad obsessive. While eye contact can be a great tool, it has its limits. You can only make eye contact with her so many times before it gets weird. At some point, you should stop staring at her from afar and just go up to her and talk to her.
Be sparing with how often you contact her. If her phone is constantly buzzing with you texting her asking what she’s up to, she’s going to feel suffocated. She’ll imagine that if she actually got together with you, you would probably never let her out of your sight, making her even less inclined to give you a chance. If she hasn’t replied to the last few texts, take the hint and don’t keep sending more. Even if she has a soft spot for you, constantly contacting her will very quickly give her the impression that you’re far too clingy.
If a man she was enamoured with was always gazing at her and calling her all the time, she would be pretty excited. Yet when you do it, she thinks you’re a creep. The difference is that she doesn’t reciprocate your interest. The main reason she thinks you’re a creep is that she’s not interested in you. Your eager behavior serves only to repulse her further. You probably don’t have a chance in the near future, but if there is to be any hope at all, it is in you not acting so keen.
Perhaps it’s not as personal as you trying to get too close to her, too soon. It’s going to set off huge alarm bells in her head if you’re one to complain about how girls don’t go for nice guys, and you’re such a nice guy and you can’t understand why no girls respond to your advances. Alternatively, if you boast about how many chicks you got with last weekend, she will also think you’re a bit off. Your first mistake is in referring to women as girls/chicks or other words which give the impression that you haven’t realised women are fully grown humans. Your second mistake is talking about your successes and failures with a woman you’re trying to pursue. All you’re doing is giving her forewarning that you lack social skills with women, so she can form an opinion of you as a creep in advance of you actually doing anything creepy.
About Natasha Abrahams Natasha Abrahams is a writer and journalism student from Melbourne, Australia. When she is not busy with being a principal writer on Weekendnotes or skipping lectures, she can be found emptying her wallet at the nearest shopping centre. You can read more from Natasha at: http://mensstyleandfashion.com/