How To Be A Gentleman
Although most people might disagree, I often like to believe that the term “player” should be synonymous with gentleman. Quite frankly, if a player wasn’t a gentleman, he’ll have a hard time at being a player. If we look at it this way, we can see that these terms are interconnected.
This is exactly why I wanted to talk about HOW to be gentleman in today’s article. Before we start, I just want to point out that being a gentlemen is not about wearing a monocle while spotting a suit 24/7. It’s about the respect one offers and expects to receive, the chivalry, the politeness and the perfect manners that one exhibits.
Although many women may not be aware of this, they are insanely attracted to gentlemen. The world is full of butch pigs as it is, which is exactly why your gentlemen skills will always take you further.
Without wasting anymore time, let’s get to it.
These are some of the easiest and simplest things in life. The gentleman always makes sure to say “please”, “thank you”, is apologetic if necessary, opens doors for women, smiles, acts calmly and shows interest towards the person that’s talking to him. These are all basic manners that define a gentleman.
Ideally, one should never swear but that’s almost impossible. However, overly swearing is horrible and makes you sound like an uneducated idiot. A gentleman always keeps his swearing at a minimum, especially if there are ladies around.
Although the gentleman should never get wasted because it will only make him lose control, he should at least make a very conscious effort to never get drunk in the presence of his woman or the woman that he’s dating. Being a drunk is a massive turn of for any woman, something that the gentleman already knows. If he’s unsure about his ability to hold liquor, he will rather not drink at all.
The gentleman is not overly protective like a former player father, but he does know that women look for protection and security in men, a skill that he has learned to master. He usually holds her waist or hand when crossing the road, staying on the outside bit of the sidewalk as he walks he’s lady and he always offers to take her home, at least to make sure that she’s safe.
The gentleman also knows when to put other, out of line males, back into their place, especially if they disrespect him or his lady.
If he sees that a woman is carrying something heavy, he will always offer to lend a hand. If he sees a woman standing in the bus/train, he will always offer her his seat. These things are common sense but it seems that in this modern day and age, no man is doing them anymore.
This is a big one and the gentleman knows it. One of the most disrespectful things a man can do on a date is to talk about other women and his experiences with them. The gentleman always keeps that part of his life private, especially in the presence of other women.
If the gentleman has a lady that he enjoys spending time with, he knows that making the occasional surprise will do wonders for the relationship. A weekend away, flowers on a random day, are a sure way to get his point across.
The gentleman knows that one of the most important things in life is to take care of one’s body. He will never allow his physique to deteriorate because that’s what weak men do. He pays close attention to the ways he dresses, knows how to groom and always pays attention to the overall package.
White lies have their place but generally the gentleman projects honesty towards the people he encounters. There’s no need for shady lies if one ever expects people to respect him.
1. He never yawns without putting his hand over his mouth – Yawning shows boredom or tiredness but it’s something you can’t control. If you’ve got to do it, at least put your hand over your mouth, not doing it, shows disrespect.
2. He never chews with his mouth open – That’s just gross, keep it closed, nobody wants to see chewed pieces of food moving around in your mouth.
3. He does not fart nor belches – Of course NOT doing these is almost impossible, but refraining from doing them in the presence of other people is the least a gentleman can do. If it does happen, the gentleman always excuses himself.
4. He never looks at other women – This is probably one of the most disrespectful things a gentleman can do in the presence of a woman which is why he never does it.
There you have it, a simple plan on how to be a gentleman. If you start acting this way, the women around you will be more attracted and the men will show you more respect. It’s that easy, just try it!
This is the sort of stuff I discuss on my website and in the free eBook I give out. If you want to increase your success with women, visit ThePlayerGuide.com – a place where the dating mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct and fruitful methods of meeting and seducing women.
About Alex Matlock Alex Matlock is an expert in dating and woman psychology. Apart from working on his PHD in Social Psychology and writing for TSBmag he also owns ThePlayerGuide - a place where the "dating" mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct (and fruitful) methods of meeting and seducing women.