When Her Friend Is Into You
Cupid’s arrow missed, and shot the best friend of the girl you have your eye on. Do you still have a chance?
A girl will never date the guy that her best friend is crushing on. You may think you have a chance once her friend’s interest in you subsides, but it is unlikely. You will always be the guy that her friend had mentally claimed, so dating you would be almost as unfathomable as dating a friend’s ex. A woman who prides herself on being a trustworthy friend will not go for you, even if she finds you attractive, because her moral compass will not allow it.
The wisest thing for you to do would be to pursue her friend instead, if you are even the slightest bit interested in her. You have next to no chance with the girl you were originally interested in, so it is worth giving up on her. It will be easy to go for the friend, because you already know that she is into you. You may want to leave some time in before switching your interests to her friend, or they will realize that you are being opportunistic, which will not reflect well on you.
Hot girls travel in packs, so it might not be such a bad thing that the closest friend of the woman you want is into you. You may think it is wise to hedge your bets by pursuing both of them at once. However, this is a terrible idea, as you will end up with neither of them. They will talk and find out that you have been flirting with both of them, which will lead to both of them being turned off you. They will hold you responsible for any damage that you have caused to their friendship, and will possibly even tell other friends not to go for you.
Under rare circumstances, when they are not good friends to each other and already suffer from some rivalry, her friend being into you may actually work out better for you. The woman you are interested in may not have found you attractive at all, but once her friend says that she finds you sexy because of your eyes or sense of humor or whatever else, she will suddenly notice your best features and decide that perhaps you are a catch. If they are more acquaintances rather than good friends, she will also perceive her friend as a threat, and decide that she needs to make a move on you quickly, before you change your mind and go for her friend instead. You do not need to do much to capitalize on this situation, other than being in the right place at the right time. This works best with a pair of friends that secretly dislike each other. You may want to talk to both of them and work out what kind of friendship they have, before deciding on the best course of action.
About Natasha Abrahams Natasha Abrahams is a writer and journalism student from Melbourne, Australia. When she is not busy with being a principal writer on Weekendnotes or skipping lectures, she can be found emptying her wallet at the nearest shopping centre. You can read more from Natasha at: http://mensstyleandfashion.com/