Is your flirting is too obvious?
Flirting should be obvious enough that the other person has an inkling that you are interested. However, it should also not be too obvious, as this takes the fun out of flirting. It also quickly gets uncomfortable if you are being far too obvious, and yet she is not interested. The element of doubt may keep her talking to you for long enough to become interested in you, so you do not want to lay your cards on the table too quickly. These are a few of the most common ways in which men attempt to flirt, but end up failing because their style is too full-on.
Too many compliments
Give her too many compliments and you will come off as desperate. She will know full well that you are flirting with her, and unless she is very much into you, she is going to feel awkward around you. Pay attention to how she reacts the first time you give her a compliment. If she seems embarrassed, then it is likely she is not at all interested in you. Even if she does appreciate receiving a compliment, you are also giving away too much, too quickly by lavishing her with praise. She needs to feel like there is something of a chase. She will not feel drawn towards you if she realises that she can very easily have you.
Similarly to giving too many compliments, asking her endless suggestive questions will demonstrate that you are trying too hard to get with her. Plus, if she is not at all interested in you, you will come off as a creep by being too sex-focused. Keep suggestive comments few and far between in that initial flirtation stage.
There is eye contact, and then there is staring. Go for lingering glances. Staring will make you look like a weirdo. It will be far too obvious that you are interested, and not in a good way. Staring shows that you are unable to navigate social conventions, and at worst it can even feel threatening to the person you are staring at.
Too much bragging about yourself will make it apparent that you are setting out to impress her. Whether you talk too much about how much you earn, the hours you put in at the gym or how many women you have lusting over you, it will not leave a favorable impression of you. There is nothing wrong with presenting yourself in your best light, but there comes a point where you come across as a desperate salesperson, with yourself as the product.
Cutting down other guys
She mentions that a particular man she knows seems to be ambitious, and suddenly you find yourself shooting off reasons why he is really not that great. You are not going to convince her not to admire this other man by trying to cut him down. She will realise that you feel threatened by the mere mention of another male.
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