Signs it’s Really Time to Breakup
All relationships go through their fair share of ups and downs, so no one should be jumping ship at the first sign of trouble. We tend to want to work things out with people that we like and have already invested time on, which can create a sort of blinders situation when all signs start pointing towards breakup city. Here are some ways to know that your relationship is past the point of no return and that it’s really time to breakup.
A spat here and there is expected, but most of your communication should be coming from a productive and honest place. If you suddenly find yourself fighting dirty when it comes to talking to your girl, that’s not a good sign. Would you really want to insult someone that you cared about by hitting her below the belt about her daddy issues? Hopefully not. If you’re surprising yourself with how mean you actually be it might be time to think about why.
Same goes for the scenario where she’s throwing down the painful blows. You don’t need to put up with someone who is intent on hurting you to keep their own sense of power and control in a relationship. If your fights start to escalate increasingly quickly or pour over into public settings, take a step back to clear your head and evaluate what’s really going on.
You haven’t felt like yourself lately…but in a bad way. All relationships have the potential to change both parties involved and they should to the extent that it’s positive growth and expansion. But if you picked up a weird gossiping habit, fell off your gym routine, or just feel irritated under the surface a lot of the time it might be a sign that something is amiss.
This can happen from getting too comfortable in a relationship, and it can also happen when there’s pressure from the other person to mold into their life somehow. Neither should be occurring to the extreme. Overall you should both want to be with the person in front of you, not the people who you might possibly become with a little peer pressure.
If this is happening in your relationship it doesn’t necessarily mean there’s anything wrong with her, but maybe together you’re not creating the right kind of sparks. Any long term relationship should feel like it’s going somewhere in multiple ways. But all of them up.
Arguably sex and intimacy is more important to some people than others, but let’s be honest you should want to sleep with your girlfriend. Otherwise maybe she’s just a girl friend, not girlfriend material. If you’ve lost those loving feelings you might first check in with the rest of your life, because stress of any kind can affect the carnal desires. But if you have plenty of drive just not for her, do you both a favor and get out sooner rather than later. Especially if her hotness for you hasn’t dipped and you’re having to deny the girl.
About Kate Ferguson Kate Fergus is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blogs and online magazines. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce.